Just like painting or cooking, flirting too is an art. Some are lucky
enough to be natural flirts. It just comes so easily to them. But take
heart! Flirting is not a talent which you either have or you don’t. It
is a skill that can be acquired and honed. The more you practice, the
better you get at it.
We sometimes hear of a guy being referred to as an ‘incorrigible
flirt’, but it is rarely a derogatory tag. In fact women often love to
be flirted with; it makes them feel special. And almost all women adore a
skilled flirt, unless of course he happens to be your boyfriend and
he’s always flirting with other women!
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Flirting is not a male domain. In fact most men love women who make the first move. You can
earn extra points by doing it with grace and flair.
Many of us feel we just can’t flirt and would probably end up looking
foolish. And we secretly envy those who seem to attract members of the
opposite sex like bees to honey. Sometimes we justify it by saying, “Oh, he’s good looking”, or “She’s got a
great body”, and hence successful at the flirting game. You’re wrong!
You don’t have to be attractive or sexy to charm the socks off the
man. Sure, it can help; but with or without them, you can still come out
tops in the popularity charts.
For those who think they could never do it, here are a few tips to be a successful flirt:
1. Show It Off
If you’ve got it, flaunt it. We’re not contradicting what we just
said, but if you’ve got the assets, capitalize on them. We’re not
talking obvious beauty here, but if you’ve got good legs, display them.
Or sensuous lips, accentuate them with the latest shade from Maybelline.
If you’ve been bulking up those biceps in the gym, don’t hide them.
Whatever it may be, make the most of your best feature!
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2. Sex Appeal
You may not have any single spectacular feature, but you may have
something intangible…if anyone has ever told you that you have loads of
sex appeal, let it show! It could be your razor sharp intelligence or
sparkling wit. If you know it gets them weak in the knees, exploit it to
the maximum.
3. Self-confidence
You have to exude this quality if you want to be successful at the
flirting game. Flirting requires gumption and you need to be really bold
in your approach.
4. Dress to Impress
As you approach her, she assesses you and already forms a snap judgment based on what she sees. It's not said for nothing that ‘
First impressions
are the last impressions’, so before you even open your mouth let, your
appearance speak a thousand words. If women have told you before that
you have a good butt, wear that cool pair of Levi’s that highlights it,
along with your favorite shirt.
5. Smell Good
Our body secretes pheromones that are subtle indicators and draw
members of the opposite sex to us. But, you could help your cause a bit
by generously using an extra dash of that David off or Burberrys. Women
go weak at the knees when men emanate that indefinable aroma which is
all musk and male.
6. Body Language
Our body can send some very powerful signals and it is an invaluable
tool in the art of flirting. The eyes, for instance, can speak volumes
without a word ever crossing our lips. You can adopt the subtle approach
and sidle glances his way or be bold and grab her attention with a
direct look. Be sure not to stare offensively though, she may run, but
not in the direction you’re hoping! You can even be coy and use the
age-old fluttering of your eyelashes and hope he’s a sucker for it. The
hands too can be used to advantage. You can run your fingers
suggestively down the spine of the book you happen to be carrying as if
you’d rather be running them down her spine! Or if you’ve got luscious
lips, you could keep running your tongue over them to moisten them or
pout in his direction. The possibilities are endless!
7. Conversation Opener
There is no point setting the stage, perfecting your costume and
make-up and then forgetting your lines. When you’re flirting, put on the
performance of your life. Know what you’re going to say and be
convincing. Try for something original instead of the run-of-the-mill
pick-up lines. There are, of course, women who enjoy the occasional
corny line, but every woman would like to hear something new.
8. Language
Use good language and if you have a way with words, use it to your
advantage. If you’re well-read, bring it up at relevant points in the
conversation. Remember though, while you’re trying to impress, this is
not about you, always steer the topic back to your partner.
9. Compliment
Observe and pay compliments. If you really want to make an impression
you’ll avoid the more obvious, like how she has great hair or he’s got
fantastic height. Try and probe and discover things not apparent on the
surface and you’ll have your victim’s attention.
Don’t resort to idle flattery; unless you do it with remarkable aplomb or your target is stupid or both, you won’t succeed.
10. Humor
If you ask most men/women for the top five qualities they look for, a
sense of humor almost invariably figures in the first three. Its no
wonder they say that laughter is the best medicine. If he’s faking a
polite laugh, then you know enough not to pursue it, you’re not on the
same wavelength or he simply doesn’t find you funny. But if he finds you
rib-ticklingly funny, you’ve ensured a date by the end of the evening.
11. Make Him/Her Feel Special
The one you’re trying to flirt with may be in a roomful of people or
surrounded by a group of friends but try holding eye contact and making
him/her feel like they are the center of your universe. Be interested in
everything he/she is saying and absorb every feature as if you are
trying to etch it in your memory. Believe me, they will get the message
that you’re more than interested!
