tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-54769510243758004962024-03-12T21:21:29.013-07:00sherry harbim hokuneye's blog"you have found your true love when you are willing to face your fears togetherAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02996151583251537081noreply@blogger.comBlogger52125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5476951024375800496.post-82672277356121351852017-07-07T04:18:00.000-07:002017-08-21T06:17:19.709-07:00CELIBACY - Easier said than done<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
<span style="background-color: #fefefe; color: #0a0a0a; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Roboto, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px;">When I share with other women that I practice abstinence, it is usually followed by an inquisitive look. Most want to know how long I’ve been refraining from getting busy and how long much longer I plan on continuing with it. How long? . Until when do I plan to hold out? The responses that I usually receive following my answers vary. Sometimes I get the eye roll, which is usually followed by girl-bye-no-one-abstains-in-2017 look. Sometimes I get a “good for you.” Other times I get a response that goes something like, “That’s great, I tried that once, but it didn’t work out,” or the infamous “That’s sweet, but get a little older and see if you’re singing that same tune.” However, the most frequent response that I get is “I always thought about it, but I could never do that,” which is probably somewhat true. By telling yourself that you can’t, you’ve already sabotaged yourself.</span><div>
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What many don’t realize is that celibacy isn’t something that is merely physical. From my own personal journey, I’ve come to realize that it is more of a mental battle than anything else. It is about making up your mind that you are going to refrain from sex and wanting it bad enough to truly stick with it, regardless of what opportunity presents itself and who comes along looking to change your mind. While there are plenty of people out there who will preach why you should become or remain celibate, not many are providing enough insight as to how. So, I’ve provided some of the tips that have helped me in my own personal journey, as well as some lessons I’ve learned along the way.</div>
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<strong style="box-sizing: inherit; line-height: inherit;">Recognize why you’ve chosen or are considering celibacy – </strong>Not knowing the reason why you’re doing something can greatly hinder your progress and success. I personally decided to abstain from sex for religious reasons. As a Christian, the Bible advises against participating in premarital sex. While I had already made the mistake of engaging in sex outside of marriage, I didn’t wish to continue with it. <b>I no longer have the gift of virginity to give to my future husband; however, I didn’t wish to continue giving away what I did have to a guy that was undeserving of it.</b></div>
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<strong style="box-sizing: inherit; line-height: inherit;">Inform your current sexual partner (if you have one) that you’ve kissed that life goodbye</strong> – Unless you plan on cutting all ties with the current boyfriend or friend with benefits that you’ve been engaging with, then you should probably inform them that you will no longer be taking part in the festivities. Now, I can’t guarantee you that their response will be the most encouraging, because realistically speaking, it probably won’t, but verbally putting it out there takes pressure off of you and it decreases expectations.</div>
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<strong style="box-sizing: inherit; line-height: inherit;">Refrain from putting yourself in compromising situations</strong> – Just because you’ve chosen to take on the challenging task of locking down the goods, that doesn’t mean you’re superwoman. You are still human. With that in mind, try to avoid putting yourself in situations that might tempt you to give in to your desires. We’re sexual beings and to think that because you’ve decided to be celibate you are somehow exempt from getting “turned on” is foolish.</div>
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<strong style="box-sizing: inherit; line-height: inherit;">Don’t lead him on</strong> – Participating in 4-play knowing that you don’t have any intentions of going all the way is crazy. Besides, celibacy means abstaining from all sexual activities, not just the main attraction. By doing this you also make things more difficult (tempting) for yourself. It is unfair to him as well.</div>
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<strong style="box-sizing: inherit; line-height: inherit;">Inform anyone that you are seriously dating or considering seriously dating of your decision </strong>– This just helps you to avoid headaches in the long run, it always shows you where your love interest’s head is at. First, it puts everything on the table. You are letting it be known upfront that sex is not on your agenda. Allow them to then make the decision from there whether or not they wish to continue a relationship with you.</div>
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<strong style="box-sizing: inherit; line-height: inherit;">Align yourself with other women like you</strong> – The decision to be celibate can be challenging at times. Having support from people that have embarked on similar journeys can be really helpful and encouraging, especially on those rough days.</div>
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<strong style="box-sizing: inherit; line-height: inherit;">Be selective with the men you choose to date</strong> – Practicing celibacy while dating a sexually active man is really difficult, some would even call it impossible. Practicing celibacy while dating a sexually active man who doesn’t respect your decision to be celibate is a recipe for disaster. It’s probably in your best interest to date those who have also made a decision to practice abstinence.</div>
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<strong style="box-sizing: inherit; line-height: inherit;">Control your thoughts</strong> – There will be times where your mind wants to wander back to how it used to be. You’d be surprised at how vivid and accurate your memory can be sometimes. You have the ability to be in control of your thoughts. While you may not be able to completely filter the thoughts that pop into your head, you can definitely decide what you choose to dwell on.</div>
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02996151583251537081noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5476951024375800496.post-52232825649981981852016-11-07T09:21:00.000-08:002016-11-07T09:21:42.408-08:00Using sex as a weapon - Not cool<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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<span style="font-family: ".sfuitext"; font-size: 14pt;">Let me start with a personal experience, there was this guy I was seeing, every time there was an issue, i threatened him with our relationship. I say things like "let's end things right now", let's just break up. At the beginning, he would beg and apologize, it got to a time he doesn't even care anymore, then he said "yetty, if you wanna leave, just leave". It's the same thing with using sex as a weapon, he would get tired one day, because he knows sex is all you can threaten him with, so he just gets it somewhere else. </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: ".sfuitext"; font-size: 14pt;">Using sex as a weapon is common with ladies. Some don't even know they are doing it. As long as you have this mindset "if he isn't gonna do this for me today , am so not giving him sex today". You are obviously using sex as a weapon. That is, you are either punishing him or rewarding him with sex because of something u want him to do or not. There is nothing wrong with saying no to sex because you are not in the mood or you are sincerely tired , but if you are doing it purposely because you ask him to do something or give you something and he didn't do it, that's wrong. Before you know it, he wouldn't even care anymore. That's not what you want, right? Right? RIGHT. </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: ".sfuitext-bold"; font-size: 14pt; font-weight: bold;">Remember: if you do withhold sex as a punishment for inappropriate behavior, or you give sex as a reward for being “good,” do it sparingly. Continually using sex as a commodity could potentially weaken your relationship and diminish the intimacy and trust the two of you share.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: ".sfuitext"; font-size: 14pt;">Using sex to either punish or reward their partners has been a favourite way of women to maintain control over a relationship. While it might give some short term gains, manipulative behavior like this can backfire big time. Here’s why you should avoid this sneaky strategy.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: ".sfuitext-bold"; font-size: 14pt; font-weight: bold;">1) You devalue sex</span><span style="font-family: ".sfuitext"; font-size: 14pt;"><br />
When you use sex as a bargaining commodity in your relationship, you are devaluing its worth as a sacred and intimate connection that just the two of you share. Sex in a monogamous relationship means more than just between-the-sheets action. So don’t cheapen it by using it as manipulative tool for petty gains. <br />
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Withholding sex is not fair play regardless the provocation. If you are angry at him for something that he has done, then battle it out with him on that issue, why get sex into it? Fight fair. Besides, what can be a better way to make up than a steamy roll in the hay? <br />
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There is no excuse for cheating, but look at it this way, if you continue to withhold to sex for long periods of time or at frequent intervals because you are angry or want something, it won’t be long before he starts looking at sex as a commodity too and starts looking for it elsewhere. And even if he doesn’t cheat, he will eventually distance himself from you emotionally and sexually. <br />
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Withholding sex is quite pointless because though he might beg and plead a couple of times, after that he’s just going to get bored and do his own thing. And besides, even if he capitulates, it doesn’t mean that he has actually backed down. He might just be putting up a front to get laid. </span></div>
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02996151583251537081noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5476951024375800496.post-12878249880923688512016-11-04T09:48:00.000-07:002016-11-04T09:51:20.814-07:00What is a fuckboy or fuckgirl ? <div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
I'm sure you've all heard about the term "fuckboy", some of us have even been a victim of their tactics, well this is it.<br />
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They are most often "wolves in sheep's clothing. I'm talking about a very specific type of man and <b>woman </b>and their behavior. This "I don't mind fucking you over to get what I want" mindset is a very common thought pattern that I have observed. A fuckboy or girl aka Master manipulators are very insecure people who choose not to be mature and "real", hide behind ego, pride and lies while using manipulation tactics to make themselves seem more impressive than who they <b>REALLY </b>are. They seem to be the ideal woman or man following the <b>womanly/ gentlemanly </b>rules, going out with you for dinner, enthusiastic about you, interested in your life and listen to you attentively. They are probably very attractive, good talkers, fun to hang out with and seem to be great candidates for relationships. They demonstrate great promise and potential. They will be so seemingly genuinely into you, they will say that they want to be exclusive and not date other people. And you can't understand why sex with them drives you crazy. Then they fuck you over inside and out. </div>
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02996151583251537081noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5476951024375800496.post-37034577087140526902016-11-04T08:08:00.002-07:002016-11-04T08:08:25.390-07:00Being Single Is Not A Disease – Some People Prefer Being Alone Than Dealing With Drama<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
its been a while!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! i will be talking about the singles today *smiles*<br />
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<span style="color: black;"> The reaction of most men when they meet an
attractive single woman is, “What’s wrong with you?” But my question
is, why does something have to be wrong? Why is it so unbelievable that
an attractive woman would choose not to be in a relationship? Maybe the
reason she’s single is because there <i>isn’t</i> anything wrong with
her. People can be very toxic, and they bring a lot of baggage from
previous partners. The fact that a person who has many options is not in
a relationship speaks to his or her high self-esteem, not their lack of
it. It’s easy to just jump into a situation with someone and start
calling him or her your man or woman. But it takes discipline and
knowing your self-worth that makes it easy to wait for someone who
values you and uplifts you.</span><br />
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<span style="color: black;">Most people have never taken themselves
out on a dinner and movie date, and enjoyed doing it! And that’s a
shame. What you do demonstrates the love you have for your own company
and for yourself. That attitude is precisely what attracts healthy
people into your universe.</span><br />
<span style="color: black;">Besides, being in a relationship or
marriage is not an indicator that a person is emotionally healthy or
even happy. I hear more complaints from so-called happily married people
than single people. That’s not an attack on marriage; I’m just stating
my experience. It’s surprising that a woman would even have to defend
being single, especially to other women, but women are often the ones
applying the most pressure.</span><br />
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<span style="color: black;">i will be updating regularly from now on ..... Dont forget to take yourself out on a date and get to know YOU. </span><br />
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02996151583251537081noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5476951024375800496.post-56051473784242150322015-12-23T01:51:00.002-08:002015-12-23T01:51:23.547-08:007 reasons never to compare your relationship with anyone else's<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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Comparing your relationship with
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Inspired by All Women's talk, here are a few reasons to never compare your relationship:</div>
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You'll always think of the negative things. The negative things make it
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3. You may be envied by others. Other's may be thinking the exact opposite of what you think of your relationship.</div>
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7. You miss the
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02996151583251537081noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5476951024375800496.post-63131316368442319942015-12-23T01:44:00.004-08:002015-12-23T01:44:38.587-08:004 common relationship problems and how they can be avoided<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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No relationship is problem free,
but there are some that are common than others. These kind of problems
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<strong>1. Not spending enough time with your partner: </strong>Couples
get busy with life most times that they don't meet each other's
emotional need well enough. To avoid this couples should always try to
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<strong>2. Careless spending: </strong>At
times two people who love each other may have different opinions on how
money gotten should be spent. A problem could arise if funds are
thoroughly mismanaged by one partner. To avoid this a spending plan
should always be mapped out and agreed upon by both parties.</div>
<div align="justify">
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<div align="justify">
<strong>3. Unresolved problems:</strong>
Most couples have one or two problems between them which will be left
unresolved because both cannot reach a compromise. These could lead to a
bigger because it keeps coming up every now and then. To avoid this
couples should learn to agree to disagree which means reaching a common
ground.</div>
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<img alt="Unhappy couple" class="centeredPicture" height="271" src="http://static.pulse.ng/img/incoming/origs3547272/0411664621-w408-h960/unhappy-black-couple-2.jpg" style="max-width: 408px;" />
<strong align="left" class="caption" style="display: block;"> Unhappy couple<br />
(Shutterstock)</strong>
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<div align="justify">
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<strong>4. Communication:</strong>
It's one of the most common relationship dangers. Conflicts are bound
to arise between couples. Good communication prevents it from
escalating. To avoid this issue, one partner should be calm when the
other is angry.</div>
<div align="justify">
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<div align="justify">
<strong>5. Not liking a family member in your partner's family: </strong>It
could be your partner's mother, sibling or friend. It's understandable
if you can't help it but all you need to remember that your relationship
is just between you and your partner. You shouldn't try to let your
dislike get in the way of the love you both share.</div>
</div>
</div>
Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02996151583251537081noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5476951024375800496.post-84459836558596494852015-06-11T06:27:00.000-07:002015-06-11T06:31:48.215-07:00Poof, Gone! How To Keep Your Cool When A Dude Just Disappears <div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
<b>Sometimes men vanish into thin air. When that happens, follow these rules.</b><br />
If you ask me, nothing is harder on the heart or the ego than the disappearing act in the midst of dating.
One minute you are smitten over Mr. Constant Contact and the next …
nothing. No explanation and no closure. He stopped texting, stopped
calling and you are left to fill in the blanks.<br />
Has your latest leading man disappeared without a trace? If so, here's what you should do:<br />
<b>1. Resist temptation</b>. Once it is confirmed that Mr. Vanishing is alive and well, resist your urge to seek information from his friends, his family or the source himself.<br />
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I was dating Mr. Too-Good-To-Be-True for a solid month and I believed we were taking our happy romance to
the next level. Then one day his daily "Good morning" text was missing
from my inbox and I spent the rest of the day staring at my phone,
distracted in sincere worry that something was amiss.<br />
Mr. Too-Good-To-Be-True ignored my check-in call and before I could
fabricate horrendous stories of his whereabouts, I noticed he was
cheerfully posting on Facebook and obviously alive and well. Weeks went
by and I could not shake my anger and self-doubt. Perhaps I did or said
something wrong to encourage his behavior.<br />
I mustered up an email begging for closure and some sort of
validation that our connection was not a mere fabrication in my naïve
mind. Again, no response. I never got closure from him, and by sending
that email I gave someone who didn't deserve it another chance to let me
down. If he was too cowardly to communicate our ending in the first
place, no declaration of hurt or resentment will suddenly change his
mind or his manners.<br />
<b>2. Don't take it personally</b>, Your first reaction
will most likely be to ask what you did wrong. But most grown men will
communicate an ending with you. The ones who don't are most likely not
ready for a genuine commitment.<br />
<br />
My most recent romantic
prospect, Mr. Long Distance and I had been chatting and texting for
weeks when one day he abruptly stopped and started bringing up excuses to why he wasnt able to call or chat, but trust me, i wasnt buying it. to cut long story short, i moved on.<br />
Breakups are hard but
when one person seemingly holds all the power, it is even more
difficult. Feeling rejected by another's avoidance is inevitable but it
is important to remember that a grown man should know better than to
partake in the silent treatment.
Treating another person with a complete lack of respect signifies a
major character flaw and that may have to be the greatest form of
closure that you need</div>
Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02996151583251537081noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5476951024375800496.post-86786052050247773542015-03-11T11:09:00.001-07:002015-03-11T11:09:17.179-07:00Men and Relationships: 5 Signs He’ll Never Commit<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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<br />
The one question you will never hear a guy ask when he starts dating a girl
is: “Will she commit to me?” It just doesn’t happen. Questions and
uncertainties regarding commitment seem to be reserved for the ladies.<br />
Women of all ages and across all cultures are united in their quest to
determine the following: <strong>Does he like me? Is he serious about me? Will
he ever commit to me?</strong> And trust me, I get it. I’ve experienced
those gut-twisting feelings, the ones the leave you with a constant sense of
impending doom in the pit of your stomach causing you to question everything,
including yourself.<br />
It’s understandable. I mean, there is a lot at stake when you put your heart
on the line and you can end up wasting months, or years, of your life on a man
who never intended to keep you around for the long haul. And the aftermath of
these situations is never pretty.<br />
So what can we do to spare ourselves the time, energy, and heartbreak that
goes into determining how a man feels?<br />
After giving this topic a lot of thought and consulting with several guys,
I’ve uncovered five tell-tale signs that he isn’t going to commit to you now or
ever. <span id="more-25488"></span><br />
<strong>1. You don’t know anything real about him</strong><br />
You can talk to someone for hours and hours every day and not know anything
real about them. You might know details about their life, but you don’t know
who they are, their real and true self that exists beneath all the superficial
fluff.<br />
When a guy is serious about a woman, he shares himself with her. He lets her
into his world and shows some level of vulnerability. This is a big thing for a
man. Men aren’t used to opening up and showing their emotions and they are much
more selective when it comes to letting people in.<br />
When a guy opens up to you, when he shares his dreams, his fears, his hopes,
his wishes, his motivations, etc., he is investing in you. By investing in you,
he is committing himself to you.<br />
If a guy doesn’t share his true self with you, if he won’t let you see who
he is at his core, the chances are high that he’s not in in it to win it
and doesn’t see a future.<br />
If you’re really unsure as to whether a guy is serious about you or not,
take a look at the things you know about him and consider if you know who
he <em>really</em> is.<br />
<strong>2. He disappears for days or weeks at a time, then acts like it was
no big deal</strong><br />
If a guy truly cares about you, he will want to make room for you in his life.
Even if he has a lot going on and won’t be available for a few days, he’ll send
a text or message to let you know he’s thinking about you.<br />
If he takes vacations from the relationship with no warning it means he
isn’t worried about losing you, and this is never a good sign. If a guy knows
for certain that you’ll always be there waiting in the wings, no matter how
badly he behaves, he won’t respect you and he definitely won’t want to commit
to you–why should he when he knows he doesn’t have to? There would be
absolutely no benefit for him.<br />
His disappearing acts serve more as a way to let you know this relationship
isn’t serious and he is still free to do what he wants. It’s his way of letting
you know that you aren’t a deciding factor in where he goes and what he does.<br />
<strong>3. He tells you he doesn’t want a relationship</strong><br />
This seems like an obvious one, but unfortunately, it’s not! In fact, I think
the most common relationship in this day and age is the non-relationship, that
is, when you’re dating a guy and you’re basically boyfriend/girlfriend aside
from the fact that you’re not.<br />
The ugly truth is this: when a guy says he doesn’t want a relationship, what
he’s really saying is he doesn’t want a relationship with <em>you</em>.<br />
I know you think you’re the exception and your situation is different. I’ve
been there and I’m telling you, it isn’t. You’re like every other girl in a
non-relationship. You’re a great girl who maybe sold herself a little short and
is in a situation where the guy calls all the shots and is just taking you
along for the ride as you sit patiently in the back seat, waiting for him to
decide you’re “good enough.”<br />
If he tells you he doesn’t wan to be in a relationship or he has “commitment
issues” or hates labels, just take it at face value and do yourself a favor and
move on.<br />
<strong>4. He doesn’t take you on real dates</strong><br />
If your dates consist of you going over to his place and watching a movie or
you cooking for him, then he isn’t taking you or the relationship very
seriously.<br />
When a guy is invested in you and cares about you, he wants to go out of his
way to impress you and show you he cares. I know most women don’t feel this
way, but trust me, when a guy likes you, it’s <em>obvious</em>.<br />
If he puts in the bare minimum when it comes to dates it means he doesn’t
feel like you’re worth the effort. Are there exceptions? Sometimes. But even if
a guy is jobless and broke and doesn’t have the money to take you out, he’ll
find some sort of cheap and creative way to show you he cares.<br />
When a guy cares about a girl and sees a future with her, he wants to bring
her into his world as much as possible. He wants to introduce her to the things
he likes: movies, music, hobbies. These aren’t things that require much of a
financial investment but they speak volumes about his level of emotional
investment.<br />
If you’re the only one making the effort to keep the spark alive and do
special things, it’s a sign that he isn’t very invested in you.<br />
<strong>5. He won’t introduce you to his family</strong><br />
A lot of women make the mistake of thinking that meeting a guy’s friends is a
big deal. Maybe some guys view this as a big deal, but most don’t. Maybe he
just wants to show you off because you’re hot, or maybe he just doesn’t think
much of introducing girls to his friends. I have plenty of friends who looked
at meeting his friends as the holy grail… the tell tale sign that he’s all in,
he’s committed. It’s not. Meeting is family is where it’s at. (Side note: While
meeting his friends isn’t the biggest deal, if he won’t introduce you to them
it’s a definite red flag.)<br />
When you’re in a relationship, talk of meeting the family should come up.
Maybe you don’t meet them right away, but he should give you come sort of
indication that it’s on the horizon. At the very least, he should let you know
that his family is aware of your existence.<br />
If he doesn’t talk about his family, or changes the subject anytime you
bring it up, it’s a sign that he has no intention of making the introduction.<br />
As I mentioned earlier, when a man is serious about a woman, he brings her
into his world. By keeping you away from his family, he’s essentially saying he
doesn’t see you being in his world for the long run.<br />
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Got anymore signs a man won’t commit? <strong>Tell us about them in
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">I know it may not seem this way, but
relationships are actually surprisingly simple. And if you can master a few
basic principles about relationships, and what it takes to have the <i>right</i>
relationship, you will be better able to navigate through the confusion and
heartbreak and will effortlessly get the relationship you’ve always wanted.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">Whether you’re involved or single as
can be, here are the top four rules to live by to get the relationship you
want:</span></div>
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<b><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">1. Never Want Someone Who Doesn’t
Want You</span></b><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";"></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">Sounds obvious, but sadly, it’s not!
When it comes to men and relationships, us gals can delude ourselves in some
pretty impressive ways. We find signs to prove that things are the way we want
them to be and that he feels the way we want him to feel.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">Now here’s the truth of the matter.
If a guy says or indicates he wants to be with you, but isn’t actually <i>with
you</i> for whatever reason (I don’t like labels, my ex girlfriend was evil,
I’m stressed about my job, my dog died etc. etc.), then don’t waste your time.
Don’t help his case by reasoning and rationalizing why his excuses make sense
(but he is <i>really</i> busy! And his last girlfriend sounded like <i>such</i>
a bitch, and his dog was his <i>best friend</i>).</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">When someone is giving you excuses
as to why they can’t do something, what they’re really doing is telling you
they don’t <i>want</i> to do it. Some reasons may be quite impressive, there
may even be sprinkles of truth mixed in there, but when it comes down to it, if
he wants to be with you, he will be. Are there exceptions? Yes, but they are
very, very rare. And even if a guy can’t commit for whatever reason, he will make
sure to still let you know he’s invested in a real and substantial way.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">If a guy isn’t showing you that he
is committed and that he wants to be with you and only you, then stop wanting
that from him. It isn’t easy, but it’s a far better alternative than wasting
months or even years of your life waiting around for some guy to get his act
together, wouldn’t you agree?</span></div>
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<b><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">2. Do I Like Myself When I’m With
This Person?</span></b><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";"></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">Being in a relationship shouldn’t be
your end-goal, the goal should be attaining the <i>right</i> relationship.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">When two people are in a
relationship, they should bring out the best in one another. They should challenge
each other to grow so that their attributes strengthen and they become the best
versions of themselves.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">When a relationship crushes you and
leaves you feeling paranoid, anxious, insecure, inadequate, and always on edge,
just waiting for the other shoe to drop…. you’re cheating yourself out of
having the immense benefits a good relationship can provide.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">It breaks my heart seeing some of
the questions we receive via email and in the forum. So many of our readers
feel miserable and trapped by their relationships. Yet despite these agonizing
feelings of hurt/despair/insecurity/fear, they are unable to extricate
themselves from the situation because of their all-consuming feelings for the
other person.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">They get so caught up in their
feelings for him, or his presumed feelings for them, that they miss the most
important variable in the equation. And that is: Do I like myself when I’m with
this person?</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">I’ve been in relationships where I
almost didn’t recognize myself, ones where my flaws were magnified and my attributes
were tucked away somewhere beyond reach. It’s a miserable feeling, one that can
have lasting ramifications long after the relationship (inevitably) ends.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">At the end of the day, you are all
you have. You need to be your greatest ally in the world, you need to do what’s
best for you and what will make you happy and help you reach your potential. If
your relationship is sending you in the opposite direction, stop wasting your
strength and energy on making it work and instead use those forces to walk away.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">If you’re gonna do anything,
it should be to take the word should out of your vocabulary! Okay, in all
seriousness, the word should is very poisonous when it comes to relationships
(“Always” and “Never” are tied for second). When you tell a guy what he<i>
should</i> be doing, you’re saying what he <i>is</i> doing isn’t enough.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">Guys want to make you happy,
seriously. Guys also need to feel like winners in the world. If you “should”
him, you’re basically telling him he’s a loser who can’t make you happy and
this will not encourage him to try any harder.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">Should is a punishing word. It
causes resentment to brew and it immediately places the person you’re
“shoulding” on the defensive. Just think about all the times someone told you
what you “should” do. That word is never received pleasantly.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">Instead of focusing on what your
partner <i>should</i> be doing, try to look at what he <i>is</i> doing right in
the relationship and show appreciation for those things. The more your man
feels appreciated, the more he’ll want to do to make you happy.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">When you can come from this place,
you and your man will be true partners instead of adversaries and things will
feel much more relaxed and effortless.</span></div>
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<b><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">4. Be The Prize</span></b><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";"></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">The most common trap women fall into
in relationships is trying to be good enough for the guy. So many women get
stuck plotting and slanning their every move in an effort to prove their worth
to a guy. This is the <i>worst</i> way to be in a relationship. For one, it
reeks of <span style="color: blue;">neediness</span>. It also puts the
guy in the drivers seat and essentially tells him the terms of the relationship
are his to dictate. When this happens, you’ll find yourself in a situation with
a guy who will essentially do whatever he wants because he knows he can get
away with it and you’ll still be there.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">Being the prize isn’t so much a set
of behaviors as it is a state of mind. The “Prize” mentality is one that asks:
Is <i>he</i> good enough for <i>me</i>? Of all the guys I could have, is he the
one I choose?</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">Guys want to be with a quality woman
they had to work for and <i>earn</i>. There is nothing interesting or exciting
about a woman who will bend over backwards and settle for scraps just because
she doesn’t want to be alone.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">If you catch yourself obsessing over
what to say to your guy, or how to act around him, stop and tell yourself: “I
am the prize that <i>he</i> needs to win over.”</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">Becoming a thoroughly confident woman
takes work and isn’t something that just happens. However, one route to take to
get you there is to act like you’re confident. As the saying goes, fake it ’til
you make it!</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">Source: anewmode.com </span></div>
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02996151583251537081noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5476951024375800496.post-86546144828989427612015-02-23T08:43:00.000-08:002015-02-23T09:02:18.096-08:00THE 11 DIFFERENCES BETWEEN DATING A BOY VS A MAN<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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When I was in between the ages of 19 - 21, if a guy acted aloof, called back only sometimes and showed minimal interest, I would get hooked. You could say I was addicted to the bad boy/ unavailable boy/ player. I was drawn to what psychotherapist, Ken Page terms as “attractions of deprivation”. Basically, the theory explains that we are attracted to people who can wound us the same way we were wounded in our childhood, as our psyche tries to recreate the past void and save us by changing its ending.</div>
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“The child in us believes that if the original perpetrators — or their current replacements — finally change their minds, apologize, or make up for that terrible rupture of trust, we can escape from our prison of unworthiness. Our conscious self is drawn to the positive qualities we yearn for, but our unconscious draws us to the qualities which hurt us the most as children.” - <a href="http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/finding-love/201104/recognizing-your-attractions-deprivation" style="color: black;" target="_blank">Psychology Today</a></div>
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So games used to work on me because 1) I had unresolved daddy issues and 2) At the tender age of 20, I was trying to figure out who I was and to top it off, I was ridden with insecurity and a low sense of self-worth.</div>
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But somewhere in between the passing of a decade, something changed.</div>
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I learned to love myself. I became independent, confident, and started to value my self-worth. I went through hardships and heartbreaks and picked myself back up which built my strength and courage. Instead of relying on beauty as my source of empowerment, I focused on basing my empowerment on my intelligence, successes, values, contributions to the world and how I helped others. In a sense, I finally grew up. I went from being a girl to becoming a woman. And as a woman, you are attracted to very different things than you are as a girl.</div>
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A girl is attracted to boys. A woman is attracted to men. Now, this has nothing to do with the actual age of a person. I’m referring to maturity, life vision and stage of life. In fact, some people regardless of their age, will never really grow up. You can switch the genders in this post and most points would likely still apply. </div>
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If you are a girl (lack independence, are ruled by insecurity, lack self-respect, throw tantrums, have princess syndrome, don’t have strong values or boundaries and can’t hold yourself on your own) then expect that you will attract only boys. However, if you are a woman (independent, ambitious, knows your worth and value, has a strong moral compass, is considerate and an able communicator and doesn’t let insecurity dominate your psyche), then you should be dating a man. And if you can’t spot the difference just yet, here are some pointers.</div>
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<li style="list-style: decimal; margin-bottom: 18px; padding-left: 15px;">A man knows what he wants, and goes for it. A boy may have somewhat of an idea, but not really. He doesn’t think too much about it, and even if he does, doesn’t exert much effort to get it. A boy is passive, a man is assertive.</li>
<li style="list-style: decimal; margin-bottom: 18px; padding-left: 15px;">A man plans for his future and is working towards building a foundation and infrastructure in order to have a family (at some point in his life) or another purpose or passion. A boy lives only in the moment and his plans are mostly around which bar he’s going to hit up on the weekend.</li>
<li style="list-style: decimal; margin-bottom: 18px; padding-left: 15px;">A man looks for a woman with intelligence, who is supportive, grounded and encompasses a shared set of values when choosing a partner. A boy cares mostly only for girls who are hot, wild and exciting.</li>
<li style="list-style: decimal; margin-bottom: 18px; padding-left: 15px;">A man knows a good woman when he meets one and will take initiative to get to know her. A boy may make an attempt if you’re lucky, but gives up before ever really trying.</li>
<li style="list-style: decimal; margin-bottom: 18px; padding-left: 15px;">A man has the courage to have uncomfortable conversations. He is honest with his intentions and lets people know where they stand. A boy avoids. He ignores confrontation or any serious talks about feelings. Instead of dealing with a situation, he runs away from it or creates drama or excuses to mask the fact he’s not that into you or a relationship.</li>
<li style="list-style: decimal; margin-bottom: 18px; padding-left: 15px;">A man knows when to invest in a woman and jump in with two feet. A boy is always “testing” – he doesn’t fully commit because he never knows if he is quite ready. But the truth is, because he is a boy, regardless of who he meets, he will never be ready due to the stage of life he is in.</li>
<li style="list-style: decimal; margin-bottom: 18px; padding-left: 15px;">A man knows how to have a good time and be social, but is often busy making strides in his career and building his life. A boy is getting crunk with his buddies at the bar every weekend.</li>
<li style="list-style: decimal; margin-bottom: 18px; padding-left: 15px;">A man takes the time to reflect on the type of man he wants to be, the example he wants to leave and the vision for his life. He has put thought into his values. A boy has not established his moral compass or values and consequently, is often inconsistent.</li>
<li style="list-style: decimal; margin-bottom: 18px; padding-left: 15px;">A man has integrity. He means what he says, and says what he means. He has follow through and actions his promises. And if he can’t he has the guts to tell you why. A boy makes promises but doesn’t follow through.</li>
<li style="list-style: decimal; margin-bottom: 18px; padding-left: 15px;">A man is afraid of rejection but will put himself out there anyway. A boy is afraid of rejection and acts passive so that his pride and ego won’t ever get too banged up.</li>
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Now, a lot of these differences require taking the time to know someone to figure out if the apple of your eye is indeed a man, or a mere boy. However, one of the quickest filters that you can notice from the beginning is this:</div>
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11. A boy plays games. A man doesn’t.</div>
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*To clarify, when I’m referring to “games” I mean mind games.</div>
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source: www.justmytype.ca </div>
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02996151583251537081noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5476951024375800496.post-3591590204268957802015-01-26T00:05:00.001-08:002015-01-26T00:05:29.262-08:00What Does Cheating Mean? A Bro Fills Us In And Answers The Question “Is It Cheating If…” <div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
<span style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 18px;">Have you ever found yourself wondering </span><strong style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; border: 0px; font-family: Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 18px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: top;">“Is it cheating if…?”</strong><span style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 18px;"> If you have, read on, girl, read on. </span><a href="http://www.thegloss.com/2013/04/12/sex-and-dating/cheating-according-to-bro-code/?utm_hp_ref=women&ir=Women" sl-processed="1" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; border: 0px; color: #9c7289; font-family: Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 18px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: top;" target="_blank">The Gloss</a><span style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 18px;"> recently posted an article on </span><strong style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; border: 0px; font-family: Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 18px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: top;">what counts as cheating</strong><span style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 18px;"> according to a self-proclaimed bro and it was… quite enlightening. Or maybe the right way to describe it is to say that the comments made by this anonymous dude made me cringe and then</span><strong style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; border: 0px; font-family: Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 18px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: top;"> feel really angry</strong><span style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 18px;"> for the rest of the day. </span><span style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; border: 0px; font-family: Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 18px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: top;"><br /></span><br />
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You would think that <a href="http://www.gurl.com/2013/04/16/cheating-quotes/" sl-processed="1" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; border: 0px; color: #9c7289; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: top;" target="_blank">cheating</a> means anything <strong style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; border: 0px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: top;">intimate</strong> you’re doing with a person who is not involved in your relationship, whether it’s emotional or physical. You would <em style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; border: 0px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: top;">think</em> that. If you’re anything like me, you would assume that cheating means kissing, having oral sex with, having sex with or developing a strong emotional connection with <strong style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; border: 0px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: top;">someone who isn’t your significant other</strong>. But, if you looked at cheating from this dude’s eyes, you would be <strong style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; border: 0px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: top;">wrong</strong>.</div>
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Let’s go over <strong style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; border: 0px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: top;">what this guys thinks cheating means</strong>, along with some choice quotes that sort of make me want to vomit. According to this “bro,” handjobs, kissing, getting naked, fingering someone and masturbating in front of someone is <strong style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; border: 0px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: top;">not</strong> <a href="http://www.gurl.com/2013/02/27/is-your-boyfriend-cheating/" sl-processed="1" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; border: 0px; color: #9c7289; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: top;" target="_blank">considered cheating</a>. This bro thinks that a guy with a girlfriend can do any of that stuff and get away with it because it’s not really cheating. Why? His reasoning behind fingering someone is that there’s not much of a difference between <strong style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; border: 0px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: top;">his finger and a tampon</strong> (oh, makes sense) and getting naked in front of someone isn’t cheating because he’s already seen a lot of women naked. <strong style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; border: 0px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: top;">Oh</strong>. So I guess if it’s something you’ve done with other people in the past, it can’t be cheating?</div>
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He also thinks that oral sex is only <em style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; border: 0px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: top;">kind of</em> cheating. This means that if he’s not getting oral sex from his girlfriend, it’s<strong style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; border: 0px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: top;"> totally fine</strong> to get it from someone else. But if he is getting oral sex from his girlfriend, then it’s cheating. And, yeah, he thinks intercourse <strong style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; border: 0px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: top;">counts as cheating</strong>… but only if you don’t wear a condom. Obviously.</div>
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I’m going to assume this doesn’t count as cheating to this bro. | <a href="http://www.shutterstock.com/pic-78516709/stock-photo-conceptual-photo-of-a-marital-infidelity.html?src=csl_recent_image-1" sl-processed="1" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; border: 0px; color: #9c7289; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: top;">Source: ShutterStock</a></div>
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What?!<strong style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; border: 0px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: top;"> What?!</strong> I can’t even… my mind can’t even… I can’t process this. I have to wholeheartedly agree with the author, who says, “if you find yourself dating a self-proclaimed ‘bro,’ you better be damn sure you know <strong style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; border: 0px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: top;">what you’re getting into</strong>.”</div>
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Look, I get that cheating <strong style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; border: 0px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: top;">can mean different things</strong> to different people, but I certainly hope that there aren’t a multitude of guys running around out there who think that sex only counts as cheating if you forgo a condom. Because that’s insane. I don’t want to sound weird, but <a href="http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/cheat" sl-processed="1" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; border: 0px; color: #9c7289; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: top;" target="_blank">the dictionary</a> defines cheating as <strong style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; border: 0px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: top;">“to be sexually unfaithful”</strong> to your partner. And the dictionary is pretty legit, soooo…</div>
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I mean,<strong style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; border: 0px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: top;"> come on dude.</strong> There’s no difference between your finger and a tampon? You have <em style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; border: 0px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: top;">got</em> to be kidding me with that line. That was a joke, right? You were just trying to look like a huge douchebag, right? Please tell me that’s what was happening there.</div>
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But unfortunately, I don’t think that was what was happening. Sadly, I have heard other guys say<strong style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; border: 0px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: top;"> similar things</strong> (although none on this stupid of a level). One of my guy friends once told me that <strong style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; border: 0px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: top;">threesomes</strong> don’t count as cheating because it’s a threesome. Solid explanation. I’ve had a few other guy friends (and girl friends!) tell me that they don’t consider kissing cheating. I can’t help but wonder if they would still feel that way if they had to watch their significant other <strong style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; border: 0px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: top;">make out</strong> with another person.</div>
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Like I said, I understand that cheating can mean something different to everyone. But I think, in general, cheating means doing something with another person that you wouldn’t want <strong style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; border: 0px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: top;">your partner</strong> to do to another person. Does that make sense? I also think that if you’re a firm believer that cheating doesn’t include kissing, handjobs, oral sex or sex with condoms, you need to make that clear to your partner, because<strong style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; border: 0px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: top;"> not everyone feels that way. </strong></div>
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02996151583251537081noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5476951024375800496.post-49966827991614122382015-01-23T04:04:00.001-08:002015-01-23T04:32:17.105-08:00The "RULES" and playing MIND GAMES with men - NOT COOL<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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You’ve heard them; don’t approach him first, don’t flirt, don’t
look friendly, don’t pick up the phone when he calls, wait four days before you
call him back, never ever accept spontaneous invitations, act like you’re not
interested, don’t show him you like him, don’t let him hold your hand until on
the third date, don’t introduce him to your friends before he introduces you to
his, if he’s not ready to commit when you’re ready dump him, never be friends
with an ex etc.<o:p></o:p><br />
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<span style="font-family: 'Palatino Linotype', serif; font-size: 10.5pt;">Who
follows these type of rules? What kind of man does a woman who follows these
rules attract? Is it possible to sustain a loving relationship based
on a calculating persona faking a busy life? What’s so wrong with being an
open, honest, vulnerable, pro-active real woman with her own mind, a body and
soul?<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 'Palatino Linotype', serif; font-size: 10.5pt;">Every
time we set up unrealistic, counter-productive and sometimes even ridiculous
“rules” that assume that all men and all women react the same way to the same
situation rather than that relationships are an interplay between two unique
individuals, we set ourselves up for frustration, hurt and disillusion.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="background: rgb(250, 246, 253); margin: 12.75pt 0in;">
<span style="font-family: 'Palatino Linotype', serif; font-size: 10.5pt;">If all
you attract is frustration, disappointment and hurt, change the way you
approach dating and the way you relate to the opposite sex. Stop treating
dating like a game or a necessary evil you have to endure (to get to heaven)
and instead see it as a journey of self-discovery.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 'Palatino Linotype', serif; font-size: 10.5pt;">Take time
to get to know yourself and work on the unhealthy residues from your past that
may be driving your choices and actions; challenge yourself to do some of the
things you’re most afraid to do; meet people and allow others to get to know
the real you; accept that life isn’t always fair and things will not always go
your way but that happens to everyone; don’t take yourself too seriously and
don’t expect others to be perfect; be flexible, spontaneous and have fun! But
most of all be authentically you.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 'Palatino Linotype', serif; font-size: 10.5pt;">Show that
you’re approachable, friendly, interested and interesting, intriguing, good
company and relationship-worthy.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 'Palatino Linotype', serif; font-size: 10.5pt;">1) If you’re
interested in a guy, let him know.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 'Palatino Linotype', serif; font-size: 10.5pt;">2) If you
want to go out with him, ask him out.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 'Palatino Linotype', serif; font-size: 10.5pt;">3) If a
guy asks you out and you want to go, go. If you’re not available, let him
know.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 'Palatino Linotype', serif; font-size: 10.5pt;">4) If
you’re not into him, sensitively let him know.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 'Palatino Linotype', serif; font-size: 10.5pt;">5) If you
really are into him but the relationship is not as “hot” as you want it to be,
be proactive and do something about it.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 'Palatino Linotype', serif; font-size: 10.5pt;">6) If
something is bothering you about the relationship, talk to him about it.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 'Palatino Linotype', serif; font-size: 10.5pt;">7) If the
relationship is falling apart at the seams, try to mend it.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 'Palatino Linotype', serif; font-size: 10.5pt;">8) If he
feels smothered, pressured or wants a little breathing space, give it to him
without hard feelings.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 'Palatino Linotype', serif; font-size: 10.5pt;">9) If you
love him and want a second chance, give love a chance.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 'Palatino Linotype', serif; font-size: 10.5pt;">10) If
you don’t feel he is the one for you or the relationship is toxic, end it.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 'Palatino Linotype', serif; font-size: 10.5pt;">I
understand that the approach I promote is rather radical for some and have been
told by a few people that it’s “a cultural thing”. Surely openness, honesty,
integrity, truthfulness, authenticity, sensitivity, fairness, thoughtfulness
and self-respect can’t just be a “cultural thing”. More like a “human thing” or
a “love thing” to me. Unless of course, you have nothing much to offer in terms
of a real fulfilling relationship, then may be it makes sense to manipulate
others into thinking you’re who you’re not!<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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want to play mind games, by all means play on. But don’t complain when the guys
you attract using mind games are doing exactly the same thing you’re doing. In
my opinion, if two people are okay playing mind games with each other, then
they deserve each other. No tears</span><br />
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02996151583251537081noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5476951024375800496.post-85560770811983967162015-01-22T07:39:00.002-08:002015-01-22T07:39:18.772-08:00Healthy Relationships<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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Communication is a key part to building a healthy relationship. The first step is making sure you both want and expect the same things -- being on the same page is very important. The following tips can help you create and maintain a healthy relationship:</div>
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<li style="border: 0px; font-stretch: inherit; font-style: inherit; font-variant: inherit; font-weight: inherit; line-height: 20px; margin: 0px; outline: 0px; padding: 12px 0px 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><strong style="border: 0px; font-family: inherit; font-size: inherit; font-stretch: inherit; font-style: inherit; font-variant: inherit; line-height: inherit; margin: 0px; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">Be Supportive.</strong> Offer reassurance and encouragement to your partner. Also, let your partner know when you need their support. Healthy relationships are about building each other up, not putting each other down.</li>
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Creating boundaries is a good way to keep your relationship healthy and secure. By setting boundaries together, you can both have a deeper understanding of the type of relationship that you and your partner want. Boundaries are not meant to make you feel trapped or like you’re “walking on eggshells.” Creating boundaries is not a sign of secrecy or distrust -- it's an expression of what makes you feel comfortable and what you would like or not like to happen within the relationship.</div>
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Remember, healthy boundaries shouldn’t restrict your ability to:</div>
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Healthy Relationship Boosters</h2>
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Even healthy relationships can use a boost now and then. You may need a boost if you feel disconnected from your partner or like the relationship has gotten stale. If so, find a fun, simple activity you both enjoy, like going on a walk, and talk about the reasons why you want to be in the relationship. Then, keep using healthy behaviors as you continue dating.</div>
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If you’re single (and especially if you’re a single parent), don’t worry if you need a boost too! Being single can be the best and worst feeling, but remember relationships don’t just include your significant other and you. Think about all the great times you’ve had with your parents, siblings, friends, children, other family members, etc..</div>
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Try going out with the people you love and care about the most -- watch movies together, go out to eat, take a day off from your busy life and just enjoy being you! If it helps, also talk about your feelings about the relationships in your life. If you just want them to listen, start by telling them that. Then ask what makes relationships good and what makes them bad? Along the way, if you need advice, feel free to contact us. We’re here to help 24/7.</div>
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And don’t forget, the relationship you can always boost up is the one you have with yourself!</div>
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What Isn't a Healthy Relationship?</h2>
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Relationships that are not healthy are based on power and control, not equality and respect. In the early stages of an abusive relationship, you may not think the unhealthy behaviors are a big deal. However, possessiveness, insults, jealous accusations, yelling, humiliation, pulling hair, pushing or other negative, abusive behaviors, are -- at their root -- exertions of power and control. Remember that abuse is always a choice and you deserve to be respected. There is no excuse for abuse of any kind.</div>
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If you think your relationship is unhealthy, it's important to think about your safety now. Consider these points as you move forward:</div>
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Even though you cannot change your partner, you can make changes in your own life to stay safe. Consider leaving your partner before the abuse gets worse. Whether you decide to leave or stay, make sure to use our safety planning tips to stay safe. Remember, you have many options -- including obtaining a domestic violence restraining order. </div>
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02996151583251537081noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5476951024375800496.post-24297403243052481802015-01-22T07:14:00.002-08:002015-01-22T07:24:47.123-08:00The Seven Deadly Sins of a Relationship<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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“Remember, we all stumble, every one of us. That’s why it’s a comfort to go hand in hand.” <strong style="border: 0px; font-family: inherit; font-size: inherit; font-stretch: inherit; font-style: inherit; font-variant: inherit; line-height: inherit; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">- Emily Kimbrough</strong></div>
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A reader, newly married, asked me to share my tips on how to make a marriage work. I wish I had a magic formula, but here’s a simple list of tips:</div>
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But just as important as what you should do is what you shouldn’t do — and I’m sure many of you have stepped into these pitfalls yourselves. I know I have. I’ve learned from my mistakes, and have learned to recognize when I’m making a fatal error, and how to correct it.</div>
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If you can avoid these seven things, and focus instead on doing the four things above, you should have a strong relationship. I’m not going to guarantee anything, but I’d give you good odds. :)</div>
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<li style="border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: inherit; font-size: inherit; font-stretch: inherit; font-style: inherit; font-variant: inherit; font-weight: inherit; line-height: 1.5em; margin: 0px; padding: 0.2em 0px 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><strong style="border: 0px; font-family: inherit; font-size: inherit; font-stretch: inherit; font-style: inherit; font-variant: inherit; line-height: inherit; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">Not showing gratitude</strong>. Sometimes there are no real problems in a relationship, such as resentment or jealousy or unrealistic expectations — but there is also no expression of the good things about your partner either. This lack of gratitude and appreciation is just as bad as the problems, because without it your partner will feel like he or she is being taken for granted. Every person wants to be appreciated for all they do. And while you might have some problems with what your partner does (see above), you should also realize that your partner does good things too. Does she wash your dishes or cook you something you like? Does he clean up after you or support you in your job? Take the time to say thank you, and give a hug and kiss. This little expression can go a long way.</li>
<li style="border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: inherit; font-size: inherit; font-stretch: inherit; font-style: inherit; font-variant: inherit; font-weight: inherit; line-height: 1.5em; margin: 0px; padding: 0.2em 0px 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><strong style="border: 0px; font-family: inherit; font-size: inherit; font-stretch: inherit; font-style: inherit; font-variant: inherit; line-height: inherit; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">Lack of affection</strong>. Similarly, everything else can be going right, including the expression of gratitude, but if there is no affection among partners then there is serious trouble. In effect, the relationship is drifting towards a platonic status. That might be better than many relationships that have serious problems, but it’s not a good thing. Affection is important –everyone needs some of it, especially from someone we love. Take the time, every single day, to give affection to your partner. Greet her when she comes home from work with a tight hug. Wake him up with a passionate kiss (who cares about morning breath!). Sneak up behind her and kiss her on the neck. Make out in the movie theater like teen-agers. Caress his back and neck while watching TV. Smile at her often.</li>
<li style="border: 0px; color: #333333; font-family: inherit; font-size: inherit; font-stretch: inherit; font-style: inherit; font-variant: inherit; font-weight: inherit; line-height: 1.5em; margin: 0px; padding: 0.2em 0px 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><strong style="border: 0px; font-family: inherit; font-size: inherit; font-stretch: inherit; font-style: inherit; font-variant: inherit; line-height: inherit; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">Bonus sin: Stubbornness</strong>. This wasn’t on my original list but I just thought about it before publishing this post, and had to add it in. Every relationship will have problems and arguments — but it’s important that you learn to work out these problems after cooling down a bit. Unfortunately, many of us are too stubborn to even talk about things. Perhaps we always want to be right. Perhaps we never want to admit that we made a mistake. Perhaps we don’t like to say we’re sorry. Perhaps we don’t like to compromise. I’ve done all of these things — but I’ve learned over the years that this is just childish. When I find myself being stubborn these days, I try to get over this childishness and suck it up and put away my ego and say I’m sorry. Talk about the problem and work it out. Don’t be afraid to be the first one to apologize. Then move past it to better things.</li>
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02996151583251537081noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5476951024375800496.post-23036408276199749042015-01-21T03:48:00.003-08:002015-01-21T04:33:14.697-08:008 Myths That Could Kill Your Relationship<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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There are hundreds of myths about relationships, according to Terri Orbuch, Ph.D, a Michigan clinical psychologist and author of "5 Simple Steps to Take Your Marriage from Good to Great" (Delacorte Press, 2009). The problem with persistent myths is that they can erode a relationship's happiness, she said.</div>
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When you think a relationship <em style="margin-top: 0px !important;">should</em> be a certain way, and yours isn't, frustration sets in. And "frustration is the number one thing that eats away at a relationship," Orbuch said, and "it's directly tied to these myths."</div>
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That's why it's so critical to bust the below misconceptions. So without further ado, here are eight myths about relationships that might surprise you.</div>
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<strong style="margin-top: 0px !important;">1. Myth: A good relationship means that you don't have to work at it.</strong></div>
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<strong style="margin-top: 0px !important;">Fact: </strong>"The strongest most enduring relationships take lots of hard work," said Lisa Blum, Psy.D, a clinical psychologist in Pasadena and Los Angeles, who specializes in emotionally focused <a href="http://psychcentral.com/psychotherapy/" style="text-decoration: none;" title="therapy">therapy</a> with couples. She believes that our culture, education system and <a href="http://psychcentral.com/lib/category/parenting/" style="text-decoration: none;" title="parenting">parenting styles</a> don't prepare us for the fact that even good relationships take effort.</div>
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She likened a healthy relationship to a good garden. "It's a beautiful thing but you wouldn't expect it to thrive without a whole lot of labor and TLC."</div>
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But how do you know if you're working too hard on a relationship? One sign, according to Blum, is if you're feeling unhappy more than you're happy. In other words, are you spending more time tending to the relationship and keeping it afloat than enjoying it?</div>
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This unhappiness becomes less of a rough patch, and more like the "normal state of affairs," she said.</div>
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Another bad sign is if you're trying hard to make improvements and changes, but you don't see the same level of effort on your partner's part. "There has to be some sense of 'we're trying really hard, both making changes and that's making a difference.'"</div>
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On the flip side, if both of you are trying and you can see positive changes being made at least some of the time, then that's a good sign, Blum said.</div>
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<strong style="margin-top: 0px !important;">2. Myth: If partners really love each other, they know each other's needs and feelings.</strong></div>
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<strong style="margin-top: 0px !important;">Fact:</strong> "It's a setup to expect your partner to be able to read your mind," Blum said — because when you anticipate that your partner will know your wants, that's essentially what you're doing. We develop this expectation as kids, she said. But "as adults, we're always responsible for communicating our feelings and needs."</div>
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And once you've communicated your needs and feelings, "a better measure of the quality of your relationship" is whether your partner actually listens to your words. [<a href="http://psychcentral.com/lib/2011/5-communication-pitfalls-and-pointers-for-couples/" style="margin-top: 0px !important; text-decoration: none;">5 Communication Pitfalls and Pointers for Couples</a> ]</div>
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<strong style="margin-top: 0px !important;">3. Myth: If you're truly in love, passion will never fade.</strong></div>
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<strong style="margin-top: 0px !important;">Fact:</strong> Thanks to movies and romantic novels, we assume that if we genuinely love someone, "the passion, urging and loving" never go away. And if they do disappear, then "it must not be the right relationship" or "our relationship [must be] in trouble," Orbuch said. However, passion naturally diminishes in all relationships.</div>
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Daily routines are one of the culprits, Blum said. As their responsibilities grow and roles expand, couples have less and less time and energy for each other.</div>
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But this doesn't mean that the passion is gone for good. With a little planning and playfulness, you can boost passion. Blum sees many relationships where passion is alive and well. "<a href="http://www.livescience.com/11352-top-10-aphrodisiacs.html" style="margin-top: 0px !important; text-decoration: none;">Passionate sex</a> is a byproduct of sustained emotional intimacy along with a continuing sense of adventure and exploration and sense of playfulness." Orbuch also has emphasized the importance of couples doing new things to perk up their relationships (see her <a href="http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2011/06/21/6-simple-ways-to-reignite-your-relationship/" style="text-decoration: none;">specific advice</a>).</div>
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And when it comes to passion-squashing routines, Blum suggested couples ask themselves: "How do we tame our lives sufficiently that we can make time for each other and have energy left for each other?"</div>
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<strong style="margin-top: 0px !important;">4. Myth: Having a child will strengthen your relationship or marriage.</strong></div>
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<strong style="margin-top: 0px !important;">Fact:</strong> Studies have shown that <a href="http://www.livescience.com/3473-kids-curb-marital-satisfaction.html" style="text-decoration: none;">relationship happiness actually decreases</a> with every child, she said. This doesn't mean that you start loving each other less or that you won't bond at all over your child, Orbuch said. But the mounting challenges can complicate relationships.</div>
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Having realistic expectations helps couples prepare themselves for their new roles, she said. When you think that a child will improve your relationship, it only adds to the complications.</div>
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As Orbuch said, "'should' statements don't allow you to see what the other person is doing to strengthen and manage the relationship," and these expectations "cloud your judgment." She recommended planning ahead and talking about the changes that will occur when you have your first child or more kids.</div>
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<strong style="margin-top: 0px !important;">5. Myth: Jealousy is a sign of true love and caring.</strong></div>
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<strong style="margin-top: 0px !important;">Fact:</strong> Jealousy is more about how secure and confident you are with yourself and your relationship (or the lack thereof), she said. Take the following example: If you have a <a href="http://www.livescience.com/8065-men-women-jealous-reasons.html" style="text-decoration: none;">jealous partner</a>, you might try to show them how much you care so they don't get jealous. But you soon realize that any amount of caring isn't a cure for their jealous reactions.</div>
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While you can be supportive, according to Orbuch, your partner must work on their insecurity issues on their own. "No matter what you do, you can't make your partner feel more secure" or "change their self-confidence."</div>
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Trying to make your partner jealous also can backfire. While men and women are just as likely to experience jealousy, their reactions differ. Men either get very defensive or angry, believing that the relationship isn't worth it, Orbuch said. Women, on the other hand, respond by trying to improve the relationship or themselves.</div>
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<strong style="margin-top: 0px !important;">6. Myth: Fights ruin relationships.</strong></div>
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<strong style="margin-top: 0px !important;">Fact:</strong> In actuality, what ruins relationships is not <em>resolving</em> your fights, Blum said. "Fights can be really healthy, and an important form of communication and clearing the air."</div>
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Also, the type of fight a couple has plays a role. Not surprisingly, nasty, scornful or condescending fights that leave couples resolution-less and not talking for days damage the relationship. Productive conflicts that help the relationship end with "some mutual decision about how to manage this disagreement," Blum said. (Here's help on <a href="http://psychcentral.com/lib/2011/how-conflict-can-improve-your-relationship/" style="margin-top: 0px !important; text-decoration: none;">improving your communication</a> and <a href="http://psychcentral.com/lib/2011/attention-couples-becoming-a-skilled-listener-and-effective-speaker/" style="text-decoration: none;">becoming a better listen and speaker</a>.)</div>
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<strong style="margin-top: 0px !important;">7. Myth: In order for the relationship to be successful, the other partner must change.</strong></div>
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<strong style="margin-top: 0px !important;">Fact:</strong> Many times we're very good at the blame game and not so good at pondering how we can become better partners. Instead, we demand that our partners make such and such changes.</div>
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Unless, there are extreme circumstances like abuse or chronic infidelity, Blum said, it takes two to make changes.</div>
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But even more than that, it's up to you to figure out what you can do. While this seems "simple and obvious," 100 percent of the couples Blum sees point the finger.</div>
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"It's a profound mental shift to look at what can I do [and] what changes can I make."</div>
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<strong style="margin-top: 0px !important;">8. Myth: Couples therapy means your relationship is really in trouble.</strong></div>
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<strong style="margin-top: 0px !important;">Fact:</strong> By the time couples seek therapy, this may be true, but changing this mindset is key. Most couples seek therapy "when they've been suffering for a really long time," Blum said. "What elements were good in the relationship are destroyed."</div>
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Instead, Blum suggested that people view couples therapy as preventative. This way, a couple comes in when they've been stuck on one or two conflicts for a few months, "not five or six over the last 10 years."</div>
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02996151583251537081noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5476951024375800496.post-16359007823998824132015-01-07T09:11:00.006-08:002015-01-07T09:16:07.136-08:00What Respect Really Means in a Relationship<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
Self-help books and talk shows are replete with references to
“respect” and how foundational it is to a healthy relationship. But for
all this talk, the word is rarely defined in practical terms. What does
respect look like in a romantic relationship? And how do you go about
establishing respect, especially in a relationship where it has been
lacking?
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Showing Respect to Your Partner</h2>
We often focus on what we should be “getting” from our partner in terms of respect. But respect has a <i>giving </i>component as well…<br />
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<b>Choose your words carefully</b><br />
Words come out quickly and can be hard to take back. So before you launch a verbal tirade against your partner,
consider the desired outcome of your words. Do you really want to
“punish” your partner — or are you simply longing for him/her to be more
considerate of your needs? If so, a diplomatic approach is more likely
to achieve this goal.<br />
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<b>Acknowledge contributions</b><br />
There’s no way around it: Your partner is going to let you down
sometimes. But most likely, he or she is also making some positive
contributions to the relationship. Be sure to affirm these qualities,
even amid other frustrations. Doing so will help your partner lower
his/her defenses and lead to a more constructive partnership.<br />
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<b>Honor boundaries</b><br />
Understand and respect your partner’s personal boundaries<u> </u>regarding time together/apart, physical contact, etc.<br />
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<b>Be willing to compromise</b><br />
Being respected doesn’t mean your needs always take priority over your partner’s. Compromise provides a relationship the flexibility it needs to keep from ripping apart.<br />
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<b>Show consideration</b><br />
give sincere compliments and be generally thoughtful toward your partner.<br />
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<b>Be strong enough to admit when you’re wrong</b><br />
When you are confident in your self-worth, apologizing shouldn’t make
you feel threatened. We all make mistakes; admitting so when it happens
allows your relationship to move forward, rather than back.<br />
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<b>Protect your partner</b><br />
Never compromise your partner’s physical or emotional well-being. If
your temper is out of control, seek professional help immediately.</li>
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Being Respected by Your Partner</h2>
<ul>
<li>
<b>Understand your worth</b><br />
Self-esteem isn’t about thinking you are better than others. However,
you should have an unshakeable conviction that your thoughts, feelings
and body warrant respect. If you are truly convinced that you are worthy
of respect, others are unlikely to doubt it.<br />
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<b>Act honorably</b><br />
While our fundamental human dignity calls for respect, being a person of character makes it <i>easier</i>
for people to respect you. People who act with integrity rarely do
anything to harm another person; accordingly, such people are more
likely to be respected by others.<br />
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<b>Set and uphold boundaries</b><br />
When you love someone, it’s easy to let certain things slide. “He or
she didn’t really mean it.” “It was just that one time.” “I know, but
he/she has been working really hard lately.” If you find yourself
regularly making excuses for your partner, he or she may be taking
advantage of you. It is up to you to protect your worth and your
boundaries from anyone who would undermine them.<br />
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<b>Be a man or woman of your word</b><br />
When you lie to your partner or break promises, you weaken the trust in the relationship. And lack of trust often leads to a lack of respect.<br />
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<b>Show respect</b><br />
To truly be respected, we must also respect. If you can’t find
anything in your partner worth respecting, consider why you are even in
the relationship. If just a few of your partner’s actions or attitudes
are causing mistrust or resentment, actively address those issues. Taking a marriage/relationship education workshop can help you resolve conflict more efficiently and respectfully.</li>
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Respect means recognizing our own worth—and the worth of others. When
we respect our partner, we are able to rise above pettiness, jealousy
and cruelty. When we respect ourselves, we are able to transcend
insecurity, defensiveness and fear. And respecting both ourselves and
our partners enables us to build strong, lasting and mutually-supportive
relationships.</div>
Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02996151583251537081noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5476951024375800496.post-52024379314027365302015-01-07T08:50:00.002-08:002015-01-07T08:50:47.061-08:00Ten Ways to Make Your Relationship Last <div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
One of the ways to live a long life is have close relationships. Having
close friends and lifetime partner help us live longer and healthier
lives for they help us alleviate stress, boredom and depression.<br />
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Here are tips to make your relationship last.<br /><br /><strong>1. Communication is the key</strong><br />Constant
communication must be maintained even on the busiest day. Nowadays time
and distance is not an issue anymore if you really want to talk to each
other<br /><br /><strong>2. Don’t force him to change for you</strong>It’s
a no-no to force him to change his ways, you have to accept him or
he’ll find someone else. Let him take the initiative to change, your
life will be so much better.<br /><br /><strong>3. The key to a man’s heart is through his stomach</strong><br />The
age-old saying is true. Making your man yummy dishes makes him love you
more. So make an effort, it does not have to be an overnight thing.
Learn one or two of his favorite dishes then gradually add more as time
passes.<br /><br /><strong>4. Support him in his decisions</strong><br />His
decisions are not always perfect but it’s his to make, just be there for
him and give your opinions or just be with him on this difficult time.<br /><br /><strong>5. Make your thoughts and feelings heard</strong><br />He
is not a mind reader. On the early phase of the relationship it is
crucial that you let him know what your stand on things like how many
children do you want, do you plan to keep working even as kids. How
about finances? Would you have separate accounts?<br /><br /><strong>6. Include him in decision making</strong><br />Have
a partner means any decision you make can and will affect him too. So
before accepting a job that may include travel ask for his opinion on
it.<br /><br /><strong>7. Let him pamper you</strong>The modern woman is independent and can take care of herself fine. But I discovered that men like to pamper us once in a while.<br /><br /><strong>8. Don’t let the romance die</strong><br />Just
because you already lasted 5 years mean that you don’t need to go on
dates anymore. Where is the fun in that? Regularly going on dates keeps
the sparks going even if you’re old and gray.<br /><br /><strong>9. Make time</strong><br />Even
if your busy with your career its no excuse not to have time for him.
No sacrifice is too great just to spend an hour or two of quality time
with before your end your day.<br /><br /><strong>10. Work at it</strong><br />Many
think that once you get married, everything is okay, you have your man
and you will live forever. Actually the REAL work is just starting for
you and your prince charming to reach that forever after.</div>
Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02996151583251537081noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5476951024375800496.post-24779026516143619862015-01-07T08:41:00.001-08:002015-01-07T08:42:59.879-08:0030 Heart-Melting Love Gestures Every Woman Loves <div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
Every
woman is special and should be treated as such, especially from a man
who truly loves her. In any relationship, the borderlines between his
life, her life, and your life combined is thin, but that’s no excuse for
eliminating good manners, sweet gestures, and meaningful actions in
your love life.<br />
Despite the stigma, chivalry isn’t dead. It’s alive and well if you
decide to practice it, and it’ll mean the world to her that you did.
Below is a list of 30 heartmelting gestures that will leave any man
thinking more about ways to please her, and less time thinking about his
embarrassing fantasy football loss last week.<br />
<b>1.</b> Early in the relationship, or in pre-”mutually
exclusive” stages, walk her to the car when the date is over (if she
doesn’t stay the night). Who knows, it may even end in an unexpected
goodnight kiss. (Bonus: text or call her to make sure she get’s home
safely.)<br />
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<b>2.</b> Texting every 5 minutes can be exhausting, but a
call is more personal, easier to communicate, and can be sexy if your
charisma carries well over the phone. It’s also far more courageous to
ask a woman on a date with your voice and raw emotion, instead of your
well thought out words via text.<br />
<a class="tracker-binded" href="http://cdn-media-1.lifehack.org/wp-content/files/2014/10/Charlie.gif"><span class="lazy-div aligncenter size-full wp-image-211970" style="max-width: 320px;"><span class="lazy-div-placeholder" style="padding-bottom: 56.25%;"><span class="bttrlazyloading-wrapper bttrlazyloading-loaded"><img alt="Charlie" bgcolor="#514134" class="lazy-img aligncenter size-full wp-image-211970 animated fadeIn" data-bttrlazyloading-lg="{"src":"http:\/\/cdn-media-2.lifehack.org\/wp-content\/files\/2014\/10\/Charlie.gif","width":320,"height":180}" data-lh-image-id="211970" src="http://cdn-media-2.lifehack.org/wp-content/files/2014/10/Charlie.gif" style="display: block;" /></span></span></span></a><br />
<b>3. </b>In the early stages of dating, avoid racial,
homophobic, or any other slurs altogether. If this is a part of your
personality that will surface later in the relationship when you’re
“comfortable,” it might an opportune time to reflect on this poor choice
in speech.<br />
<a class="tracker-binded" href="http://cdn-media-1.lifehack.org/wp-content/files/2014/10/Allan.gif"><span class="lazy-div aligncenter wp-image-211966" style="max-width: 385px;"><span class="lazy-div-placeholder" style="padding-bottom: 41.82%;"><span class="bttrlazyloading-wrapper bttrlazyloading-loaded"><img alt="Allan" bgcolor="#a3b2ad" class="lazy-img aligncenter wp-image-211966 animated fadeIn" data-bttrlazyloading-lg="{"src":"http:\/\/cdn-media-2.lifehack.org\/wp-content\/files\/2014\/10\/Allan.gif","width":500,"height":209}" data-lh-image-id="211966" src="http://cdn-media-2.lifehack.org/wp-content/files/2014/10/Allan.gif" style="display: block;" /></span></span></span></a><br />
<b>4. </b>If you wear a casual ball cap, snapback, or
fedora to a date or outing with your lover, remove the hat when you
enter ANY room indoors. Sure, hat hair sucks, and rarely does someone
look fly rocking it. Acting in this way, however, distinguishes you as a
man of class and self confidence.<br />
<a class="tracker-binded" href="http://cdn-media-1.lifehack.org/wp-content/files/2014/10/Hat-Hair.gif"><span class="lazy-div aligncenter wp-image-211976" style="max-width: 311px;"><span class="lazy-div-placeholder" style="padding-bottom: 56.59%;"><span class="bttrlazyloading-wrapper" style="background-color: #5e8fa7;"></span></span></span></a><br />
<b>5. </b>When attending a fancy restaurant and she wants
to look glamorous for you, kindly offer to drop her off at the front
door to save her ankles. Dudes: just look at those deathtraps known as
high heels? Would you want to walk 6 blocks on wet concrete after it
just rained?<br />
<a class="tracker-binded" href="http://cdn-media-1.lifehack.org/wp-content/files/2014/10/Heels.gif"><span class="lazy-div aligncenter size-full wp-image-211977" style="max-width: 250px;"><span class="lazy-div-placeholder" style="padding-bottom: 99.6%;"><span class="bttrlazyloading-wrapper" style="background-color: #757377;"></span></span></span></a><br />
<b>6. </b>It’s always good practice, and good karma if
that’s your thing, to treat the waiter or waitress with respect. Let her
order first, offer to pay at the end (don’t insist on it too strongly),
and always remember to tip onto others as you’d like to be tipped.<br />
<a class="tracker-binded" href="http://cdn-media-1.lifehack.org/wp-content/files/2014/10/Counting-Money.gif"><span class="lazy-div aligncenter wp-image-211972" style="max-width: 278px;"><span class="lazy-div-placeholder" style="padding-bottom: 55.76%;"><span class="bttrlazyloading-wrapper" style="background-color: #322722;"></span></span></span></a><br />
<b>7. </b>After a meal is paid for, kindly excuse yourself
from the table to go call a taxi or pull the car around up front.
(Bonus: get her door.)<br />
<a class="tracker-binded" href="http://cdn-media-1.lifehack.org/wp-content/files/2014/10/Sexy-Look.gif"><span class="lazy-div aligncenter wp-image-211989" style="max-width: 365px;"><span class="lazy-div-placeholder" style="padding-bottom: 56.16%;"><span class="bttrlazyloading-wrapper" style="background-color: #4b3530;"></span></span></span></a><br />
<b>8. </b>In a social party scene with a lot of people,
make it a point to introduce her first and foremost to your friends,
colleagues, or business associates. Not only should you be extremely
proud of this feminine fox you have on your arm, but it will also make
her feel like a perfectly cut diamond.<br />
<a class="tracker-binded" href="http://cdn-media-1.lifehack.org/wp-content/files/2014/10/Hiiiiiii.gif"><span class="lazy-div aligncenter wp-image-211978" style="max-width: 306px;"><span class="lazy-div-placeholder" style="padding-bottom: 56.21%;"><span class="bttrlazyloading-wrapper" style="background-color: #938174;"></span></span></span></a><br />
<b>9. </b>Hold the door for her especially, but also for
strangers. Selfless generosity is an underutilized turn on that’s super
simple and effortless.<br />
<a class="tracker-binded" href="http://cdn-media-1.lifehack.org/wp-content/files/2014/10/Holding-the-Door.jpg"><span class="lazy-div aligncenter wp-image-211979" style="max-width: 244px;"><span class="lazy-div-placeholder" style="padding-bottom: 90.57%;"><span class="bttrlazyloading-wrapper" style="background-color: #686b54;"></span></span></span></a><br />
<b>10. </b>Give uncommon, unique gifts spontaneously. Why
wait for her birthday, Christmas, or Valentines day when the pressure is
on? Gifts on these Hallmark holidays are expected, but the one’s that
were strangely awesome and a complete surprise she’ll remember forever.
(Bonus: hand make the gift.)<br />
<a class="tracker-binded" href="http://cdn-media-1.lifehack.org/wp-content/files/2014/10/Trash.gif"><span class="lazy-div aligncenter wp-image-211992" style="max-width: 314px;"><span class="lazy-div-placeholder" style="padding-bottom: 60.19%;"><span class="bttrlazyloading-wrapper" style="background-color: #563131;"></span></span></span></a><br />
<b>11. </b>Speaking of birthdays, those are important. The
significance of growing another year older, however, lessens with each
passing celebration. This gives you dudes room for extreme creativity.
Standard birthday partys are cool and large dinner reservations are
touching, but I challenge all guys reading to think of something more. A
surprise birthday party, a weekend getaway, or something of that
nature. (Warning: know her likes before attempting. If she’s a social
butterfly and you’d rather be alone, don’t surprise her with a 4 day
backpacking trip that will remove her from friends, family, and cell
reception on her special day.)<br />
<a class="tracker-binded" href="http://cdn-media-1.lifehack.org/wp-content/files/2014/10/Surprise.gif"><span class="lazy-div aligncenter wp-image-211990" style="max-width: 243px;"><span class="lazy-div-placeholder" style="padding-bottom: 74.9%;"><span class="bttrlazyloading-wrapper" style="background-color: #111112;"></span></span></span></a><br />
<b>12. </b>Speaking of which, the digital age has made us
so lazy. The convenience of texting and instant messaging makes over
protection a real problem. Want a non-creepy, anti-aggressive way to
remind her of your love without texting 75 times a day when you live in
the same 750 square feet? Write her a love note. It can be as elaborate
as the 5 pagers you used to pass Janice Hawlstruck between 2<span class="s1"><sup>nd</sup></span> and 3<span class="s1"><sup>rd</sup></span> period in 6th grade, or as simple as a sticky note in her lunch box. (Bonus: pack her a lunch, leave a note on the bag itself.)<br />
<a class="tracker-binded" href="http://cdn-media-1.lifehack.org/wp-content/files/2014/10/I-love-you.gif"><span class="lazy-div aligncenter wp-image-211980" style="max-width: 286px;"><span class="lazy-div-placeholder" style="padding-bottom: 56.29%;"><span class="bttrlazyloading-wrapper" style="background-color: #201f1d;"></span></span></span></a><br />
<b>13. </b>I want to use a whole number to drive home the
point that if you text mushy, over the top lovey-dovey stuff every 5
minutes of the day when you’re separated, the “I love you’s” exchanged
when you’re face to face will slowly become less and less meaningful.
Don’t believe me? Try it.<br />
<a class="tracker-binded" href="http://cdn-media-1.lifehack.org/wp-content/files/2014/10/That-Look.gif"><span class="lazy-div aligncenter wp-image-211991" style="max-width: 346px;"><span class="lazy-div-placeholder" style="padding-bottom: 56.07%;"><span class="bttrlazyloading-wrapper" style="background-color: #533d2f;"></span></span></span></a><br />
<b>14. </b>Anything involving a puppy or kitten. (Bonus: both.)<br />
<a class="tracker-binded" href="http://cdn-media-1.lifehack.org/wp-content/files/2014/10/Puppy-and-Kitten.gif"><span class="lazy-div aligncenter wp-image-211984" style="max-width: 210px;"><span class="lazy-div-placeholder" style="padding-bottom: 85.71%;"><span class="bttrlazyloading-wrapper" style="background-color: #a88c5d;"></span></span></span></a><br />
<b>15. </b>Either late Friday night, or early Saturday
morning, pack the car with camping essentials, wake her up, blindfold
her, and tell her to leave her phone behind. (Bonus: have lunches/dinner
packed with her favorite food items.) (Double Bonus: get a hotel unless
you know for sure she’s into sleeping on the ground.)<br />
<a class="tracker-binded" href="http://cdn-media-1.lifehack.org/wp-content/files/2014/10/Blindfold.gif"><span class="lazy-div aligncenter wp-image-211969" style="max-width: 293px;"><span class="lazy-div-placeholder" style="padding-bottom: 56.31%;"><span class="bttrlazyloading-wrapper" style="background-color: #6c6c6c;"></span></span></span></a><br />
<b>16. </b>Make casual, but intentional, flirty eye
movements from across the room. In other words, this is pretty much the
only scenario where winking isn’t grounds for a restraining order.<br />
<a class="tracker-binded" href="http://cdn-media-1.lifehack.org/wp-content/files/2014/10/Wink.gif"><span class="lazy-div aligncenter wp-image-211994" style="max-width: 317px;"><span class="lazy-div-placeholder" style="padding-bottom: 56.15%;"><span class="bttrlazyloading-wrapper" style="background-color: #494037;"></span></span></span></a><br />
<b>17. </b>If I were forced to give precedence to one of
these, it’d be this: empower her. Encourage her dreams, help her attack
her fears head on, and rely on each other to grow stronger both as
individuals and as a team. Ask her tough questions, and challenge her to
be better every single day. I promise that this will result in mutual
benefit and growth.<br />
<a class="tracker-binded" href="http://cdn-media-1.lifehack.org/wp-content/files/2014/10/Girl-Power.gif"><span class="lazy-div aligncenter wp-image-211973" style="max-width: 330px;"><span class="lazy-div-placeholder" style="padding-bottom: 56.36%;"><span class="bttrlazyloading-wrapper" style="background-color: #3d2b28;"></span></span></span></a><br />
<b>18. </b>Take chances for her. Shake that booty even if
you look like an idiot white boy. Cook even if you manage to burn water.
Try crafts or draw a picture even though your kindergarden cousin can
make a better construction paper collage than you. Your courage is sexy,
and your willingness to try new things will go a long way with her.
(Bonus: do things she already enjoys that are new to you.)<br />
<a class="tracker-binded" href="http://cdn-media-1.lifehack.org/wp-content/files/2014/10/White-Dancing.gif"><span class="lazy-div aligncenter wp-image-211993" style="max-width: 351px;"><span class="lazy-div-placeholder" style="padding-bottom: 48.15%;"><span class="bttrlazyloading-wrapper" style="background-color: #2b1e1a;"></span></span></span></a><br />
<b>19. </b>Respect the “Venn Diagram” of your relationship
by offering up the house or apartment for the night so she can kick it
and gossip with her girls. Why not use this as an opportunity to hit up
an old friend from college, or go grab a long-waited beer with the guys?<br />
<a class="tracker-binded" href="http://cdn-media-1.lifehack.org/wp-content/files/2014/10/Gossip-Girl.gif"><span class="lazy-div aligncenter wp-image-211975" style="max-width: 330px;"><span class="lazy-div-placeholder" style="padding-bottom: 44.24%;"><span class="bttrlazyloading-wrapper" style="background-color: #583432;"></span></span></span></a><br />
<b>20. </b>Befriend her parents as much as possible, and
show them your true self as frequently as you can. This is a difficult
dynamic for some, but even if the relationship with her and her family,
or you and her family is rocky, the fact that you’re trying to be the
bigger guy will go a really long way in her eyes. (Bonus: once a
relationship is established, offer to do something spontaneous and nice
for her parents or family without her prior knowledge.)<br />
<a class="tracker-binded" href="http://cdn-media-1.lifehack.org/wp-content/files/2014/10/Be-Cool.gif"><span class="lazy-div aligncenter wp-image-211967" style="max-width: 304px;"><span class="lazy-div-placeholder" style="padding-bottom: 58.22%;"><span class="bttrlazyloading-wrapper" style="background-color: #a49892;"></span></span></span></a><br />
<b>21. </b>Psychological test have proven that saying
someone’s name casually in conversation is a surefire way to increase
the bond between those people. In fact, Dale Carnegie brilliantly
states, <a class="tracker-binded" href="http://dalecarnegieboston.tumblr.com/post/26913630460/dale-tip-6-a-persons-name-is-the-sweetest-sound" target="_blank">“Remember that a person’s name is to that person the sweetest and most important sound in any language.”</a> Trust me gentlemen, she loves hearing it, too.<br />
<a class="tracker-binded" href="http://cdn-media-1.lifehack.org/wp-content/files/2014/10/Say-My-Name.gif"><span class="lazy-div aligncenter size-full wp-image-211988" style="max-width: 303px;"><span class="lazy-div-placeholder" style="padding-bottom: 76.9%;"><span class="bttrlazyloading-wrapper" style="background-color: #b26f45;"></span></span></span></a><br />
<b>22. </b>Never, ever, ever, under any circumstances,
underestimate the power of tea or coffee in bed. (Bonus: utilize these
three S’s: Saturdays, Sundays, and sick days.)<br />
<a class="tracker-binded" href="http://cdn-media-1.lifehack.org/wp-content/files/2014/10/Coffee.gif"><span class="lazy-div aligncenter wp-image-211971" style="max-width: 315px;"><span class="lazy-div-placeholder" style="padding-bottom: 56.19%;"><span class="bttrlazyloading-wrapper" style="background-color: #4e505b;"></span></span></span></a><br />
<b>23. </b>Keep the private “photo messages” you share
between you two exclusively. It’s disrespectful to her and makes you
look immature when you share this private information with your homies
as a joke or to show off.<br />
<a class="tracker-binded" href="http://cdn-media-1.lifehack.org/wp-content/files/2014/10/Zip-It.gif"><span class="lazy-div aligncenter size-full wp-image-211995" style="max-width: 245px;"><span class="lazy-div-placeholder" style="padding-bottom: 65.31%;"><span class="bttrlazyloading-wrapper" style="background-color: #724d30;"></span></span></span></a><br />
<b>24. </b>Make “deep belly laugh” a monthly priority at
the least. I’m talking tears streaming down your face, stomach is sore
from laughing so hard kind of laugh. Obviously you can’t plan these
things, but put yourself in as many prime opportunities as you can to
make it happen.<br />
<a class="tracker-binded" href="http://cdn-media-1.lifehack.org/wp-content/files/2014/10/Laughter.gif"><span class="lazy-div aligncenter wp-image-211982" style="max-width: 276px;"><span class="lazy-div-placeholder" style="padding-bottom: 56.16%;"><span class="bttrlazyloading-wrapper" style="background-color: #4a3c2a;"></span></span></span></a><br />
<b>25. </b>Surprise her by stopping <b>one</b>
petty argument with a kiss. (Warning: one time use is encouraged. The
cuteness rating of this moves plummets, sometimes disappearing
completely, after the first time played.)<br />
<a class="tracker-binded" href="http://cdn-media-1.lifehack.org/wp-content/files/2014/10/Louie-Kiss.gif"><span class="lazy-div aligncenter wp-image-211983" style="max-width: 301px;"><span class="lazy-div-placeholder" style="padding-bottom: 56.15%;"><span class="bttrlazyloading-wrapper" style="background-color: #4c3227;"></span></span></span></a><br />
<b>26. </b>Focus on her eyes, even if your heart is racing
and your palms are sweaty. (Bonus: minimal glances at her chest when
you’re outside of the bedroom.)<br />
<a class="tracker-binded" href="http://cdn-media-1.lifehack.org/wp-content/files/2014/10/Betty.gif"><span class="lazy-div aligncenter size-full wp-image-211968" style="max-width: 300px;"><span class="lazy-div-placeholder" style="padding-bottom: 56.33%;"><span class="bttrlazyloading-wrapper" style="background-color: #8e8481;"></span></span></span></a><br />
<b>27. </b>Get creative with pet names and compliments, and
do your best to not recycle them. Just like overly-lovely text
messages, a name like “babe” or “beautiful” loses it’s luster after the
hundredth time. Get creative, dudes. (Tip: when complimenting, be
uber specific.)<br />
<a class="tracker-binded" href="http://cdn-media-1.lifehack.org/wp-content/files/2014/10/Sass.gif"><span class="lazy-div aligncenter wp-image-211987" style="max-width: 332px;"><span class="lazy-div-placeholder" style="padding-bottom: 42.17%;"><span class="bttrlazyloading-wrapper" style="background-color: #353435;"></span></span></span></a><br />
<b>28. </b>When walking her home after a nice date (no
matter the time of day) always walk on the outside of the sidewalk, or
closer to passing traffic. This will shield her from any unfortunate
event, such as a terrible driver or a semi-truck showering you in
drainage water. (Bonus: if you have an umbrella, use it. Let her stay
under the larger portion so she says dry.)<br />
<a class="tracker-binded" href="http://cdn-media-1.lifehack.org/wp-content/files/2014/10/Kangaroo.gif"><span class="lazy-div aligncenter size-full wp-image-211981" style="max-width: 331px;"><span class="lazy-div-placeholder" style="padding-bottom: 77.34%;"><span class="bttrlazyloading-wrapper" style="background-color: #8d8680;"></span></span></span></a><br />
<b>29. </b>Offer her your coat. Nobody does that any more.<br />
<a class="tracker-binded" href="http://cdn-media-1.lifehack.org/wp-content/files/2014/10/RIP.gif"><span class="lazy-div aligncenter wp-image-211985" style="max-width: 256px;"><span class="lazy-div-placeholder" style="padding-bottom: 56.25%;"><span class="bttrlazyloading-wrapper" style="background-color: #2e2f1d;"></span></span></span></a><br />
<b>30. </b>Stand up for her even if you both know she’s wrong. (Bonus: keep your cool when the situation get’s hectic.)<br />
<a class="tracker-binded" href="http://cdn-media-1.lifehack.org/wp-content/files/2014/10/Ron-Burgendy.gif"><span class="lazy-div aligncenter wp-image-211986" style="max-width: 297px;"><span class="lazy-div-placeholder" style="padding-bottom: 56.23%;"><span class="bttrlazyloading-wrapper" style="background-color: #a17a62;"></span></span></span></a><br />
There you have it, gentlemen. 30 tips that take very little effort,
but go a very long way with her. I’m curious to hear if I missed
anything. Ladies? Gents?<br />
<br />
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02996151583251537081noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5476951024375800496.post-90816838590738907342014-11-12T01:52:00.002-08:002014-11-12T01:52:27.283-08:007 Tips For Beginning An Open Relationship <div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
<div class="dek">
How to communicate, set rules, speak up and create boundaries. </div>
Here are some common rules people in open <strong><a href="http://www.yourtango.com/relationships">relationships</a></strong> use. But don’t follow these—do what's right for you. Each relationship is unique and it’s important to find what works for YOU.<br />
<ul>
<li>
Always practice safe <strong><a href="http://www.yourtango.com/sex">sex</a></strong> outside the relationship.</li>
<li>
No sex with mutual friends, etc</li>
</ul>
<br />
<div class="ym" id="ym_1003415940242979181">
</div>
<strong>Don’t be afraid to speak up.</strong><br />
If you make rules that don’t work and you feel unhappy, be sure to
leave room for adjustment. No one said the rules had to be set in stone
and it may take time to feel out what works best for your relationship.
Be patient with each other and the fog will start to clear.<br />
<strong>Create boundaries.</strong><br />
If you feel the need to spill every detail of your escapades but your
partner would rather you keep that to yourself (or vice-versa), you need
to discuss boundaries that make you both comfortable. Ask for the
details you want but before you even ask make sure you really want to
know. Maybe you want to know who and when, but is it really necessary to
know every detail? If you can handle it and it feels important to you
then by all means, ask!<br />
<strong>Take it one step at a time.</strong><br />
Start out slow. Consider first bringing someone else into your bedroom
before you both go out on your own. Either way, be sure to have a frank
discussion about each experience before proceeding full-steam ahead. If
it felt right and you’re ready to move forward, you can now do so with
more confidence. But if something went awry, identify the root of the
problem and work it out before moving on.<br />
<strong>Don’t cheat.</strong><br />
Unless your rules explicitly state that your partner wants to know nothing about who you sleep with, remember that <strong><a href="http://www.yourtango.com/category/39833">cheating</a></strong>
is still cheating, even in an open relationship. Holding back the
details, even if it’s because you broke a rule and are worried you will
hurt your partner, could cause greater problems going forward. Your open
relationship only works because you have trust, and once that’s gone
you have nothing.<br />
<strong>Don’t force the issue.</strong><br />
If it isn’t working for one of you, it isn’t working for both. Whether
this means adjusting your rules or stopping outside relations
altogether, make the change that is going to make you comfortable. <strong><a href="http://www.yourtango.com/open-relationships">Open relationships</a></strong>
do not work if only one person is happy. You may come to a point where
you no longer need the open relationship or you may come to a point
where you no longer want to stay in a committed relationship. Whatever
your feelings, be open with them.<br />
Open relationships are about working together to make your partnership
exactly what you want it to be. If you're honest, communicate frequently
and openly and use the tips above you'll go far.</div>
Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02996151583251537081noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5476951024375800496.post-87137625700042882282014-10-19T20:05:00.001-07:002014-10-19T20:06:45.664-07:00A Look at Korean Dramas and the Modern Relationship
<p dir="ltr">Korean dramas have become accessible on an international scale, through multiple outlets such as YouTube, DVDs, videotapes, endless websites dedicated solely to posting videos of Asian dramas—you name it and they’re there. The one thing that hasn’t changed, however, is the storyline. There is always a love triangle, usually involving two men and one woman. One of the men is perfect, a close family friend or someone she has always had a great relationship with, while the other man is a wild card; he’s someone she has petty fights with until the fateful day she realizes he’s “the one.”</p>
<p dir="ltr">The roles of the characters are also very similar across all Korean dramas. Women are always typically beautiful, with their double eyelids and 24-inch waists, while conveniently incapable of carrying out their lives without being “saved” by her man at least once through the drama. She is a hard worker and less professionally accomplished than her male counterpart. She is a damsel in distress. Even though she tries to give a tough girl impression, at the end of the day when all is said and done, her rightful place is being on the arm of her man. The men are dominating, protective of their women and stubborn. Unlike the female leads, male roles are often given more of a character range, coming from different social classes and professional backgrounds.</p>
<p dir="ltr">In the hugely popular Korean drama “Boys Before Flowers” for instance, Jan Di, the female lead, is a kind person from a poor family who attends a prestigious school. Upon arrival, Joon Pyo, the school’s biggest bully and heartthrob, who comes from a wealthy family, sees to it that Jan Di’s time at school is miserable through extreme bullying (getting people to throw eggs at her, yelling at her in the halls to leave the school, etc.). Then there’s the good guy, Ji Hoo, who is an incredibly good friend to her and falls for her also. Love triangle ensues, and accordingly, Jan Di goes for Joon Pyo regardless of how poorly he treated her and becomes dependent on Joon Pyo to save her in various situations.</p>
<p dir="ltr">Regardless of the intention of dramas as a mere outlet of fantasy, the enormous popularity of these dramas and their addictive plotlines has made their storylines and expectations a staple of modern Korean culture. As much as dramas have influenced popular culture, they are also a reflection of traditional Korean culture and its view on relationships: men should hold a dominating, leadership role, while the woman’s duty is to follow and obey their husbands.</p>
<p dir="ltr">Korean dramas often corner women into a limiting stereotype by stating that the ultimate happy ending means being with your man. When there’s a love triangle, the two men fighting for a woman are enemies and the friendships between women are portrayed to be flaky and something that can be destructed at the drop of a hat over a man’s affection. In addition, there is always a power struggle in the way relationships are portrayed. Women play hard-to-get and seemingly have the upper hand, only to take on the role of a submissive girlfriend or wife after the relationship has been determined. These dramas do an amazing job of encouraging the archaic gender roles that were assigned to men and women in past generations, prompting women to look, dress and act a certain way. In doing so, they give the impression that these outdated roles are applicable in today’s modern world.<br>
Don’t get me wrong, there were some dramas that I would watch religiously and there were times where I would think, “Wow. I wish I could be her.” When I got in fights with a guy, I couldn’t help but think “Wait… this happened in the drama I watched last week. Does this mean that we’ll go out because we’re getting into a lovers’ quarrel?” The way I interpreted my interactions with guys became completely skewed and my expectations for men became completely unrealistic: He had to be tall, handsome, successful and have a “bad” side.</p>
<p dir="ltr">Though it’s easy to become spellbound with the romantic stories that Korean dramas fashion, it’s still important to not take it too personally and realistically—relationships aren’t black and white, and to follow the ideals that Korean dramas offer would be backward thinking. Though dramas may satisfy our boredom and stir up some elaborate fantasies, it’s good to remind ourselves that at the end of the day, dramas are exactly that—a drama.</p>
Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02996151583251537081noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5476951024375800496.post-73352062626184358472014-10-16T08:49:00.001-07:002014-10-16T08:49:06.893-07:00The Pros and Cons of Friends with Benefits<p dir="ltr">Call it friends with benefits, a booty call, whatever you like. The fact is that when two friends hook up just for the sake of having sex, they must both have the understanding of that's all the relationship is: sex. Anything else can mar or muddy the advantages of being friends with benefits. If you've got a friend in mind that you wouldn't mind getting tangled up in the sheets with, consider the pros and cons of being FWB (friends with benefits) before you give it a go.</p>
<p dir="ltr"><b>Benefits of FWB</b></p>
<p dir="ltr"><b>Casual sex and usually whenever you want it. Your friends with benefits partner will usually be more than happy to accommodate you since they get sex out of it as well. The idea of a sexual relationship without the emotional attachment or drama is one of the main attractions to friends with benefits relationship. Neither party is required to commit anymore than their bodies. This makes the hook up even more favorable to anyone not looking for a commitment or has recently left a relationship but doesn't look forward to a dry spell. Lastly, when you think about your friends, there is already a level of comfort established. The pressure to impress in bed is off-though participation is always appreciated!</b></p>
<p dir="ltr"><b>DRAWBACKS OF THE FWB TRYST</b></p>
<p dir="ltr"><b>While you might not be dating your friend or anyone else for that matter, it may not stop him or her from feeling that the sexual relationship is something more. We are, after all human and humans are wrought with emotions that many times, we can't control. So while you might be having fun in the sack, they might be wishing there was more intimacy in the act. The truth is that FWB can destroy what was once a perfectly good friendship. Unlike other relationships friends with benefits aren't easily discussed among friends. Discretion is usually best so while you can talk about the amazing things your sexual partner did to you last night, if you run in the same circle of friends, it might be better not to name drop otherwise it cause awkward moments among the group when everyone is together and that can be another </b>drawback </p>
<p dir="ltr">Lastly, when it comes to dating, if your next squeeze learns that you've carried on in bed with your best guy pal, he may not feel comfortable with the two of you being together. Jealousy can happen even after the FWB relationship is over. Friends with benefits have gained popularity in the dating scene as more people are looking for fun and not the lasting commitment a real relationship can bring. If it's something you're open to, make sure clear rules are set so no one ends up with less or more than they bargained for.</p>
Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02996151583251537081noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5476951024375800496.post-43363880748574228202014-10-15T19:53:00.001-07:002014-10-15T19:53:59.484-07:00Want a happy relationship? Stop doing this . <p dir="ltr"> I want to talk about the number one way most women sabotage their <br>
relationships.  <br>
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Over my many years as a relationship writer, I have observed women tripping <br>
themselves up in one main area and that is: caring too much about the relationship.  <br>
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If you want true love, you have to stop caring about it. It may sound counter-<br>
intuitive, but hear me out.  <br>
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When I'm talking about caring about your relationship, I'm actually talking about <br>
*stressing* over it... <br>
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I care very much about my family... I love them.  My parents, siblings, extended <br>
family-- they are the center of my world and I do everything I can to help them. <br>
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I care about them, but I don't stress over them...   <br>
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True caring is just simple, it doesn't involve stressing over the person/people you <br>
care about. <br>
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Relationships are about discovering the TRUTH about how compatible you are with <br>
another person.  That's all. <br>
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That "compatibility" is already set before you and he meet.  It's predetermined... a <br>
relationship is simply the unfolding of events that occur naturally, like two <br>
chemicals combining and producing a reaction.   <br>
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It just happens naturally and you watch, observe, and enjoy. You don't attach to it. <br>
You don't force it. You don't fight with it. You just enjoy watching the process <br>
naturally unfold as it's going to. <br>
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When you're happy, enjoying the moment, and feeling at ease, you are allowing the <br>
process to just flow naturally.  When you start thinking in a way that feels negative, <br>
you destroy your vibe and you block the process from unfolding. <br>
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In essence, all you're doing in a relationship is enjoying being around the other <br>
person. Nothing to think about. Nothing to plan.  Nothing to "make happen." <br>
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When two people are incredibly compatible, they will naturally be drawn to one <br>
another and will both want to get closer. Nature has programmed us to be this way. <br>
It's taken care of. <br>
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If you come into a relationship with the attitude that there is nothing to care about <br>
or stress over, you won't need to analyze his texting habits or spend endless hours <br>
trying to determine if he likes you and what he meant when he said XYZ. And you <br>
won't be gripped by a fear of loss.  <br>
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Personally speaking, when I look at things in a way where I perceive that I could lose <br>
something, then I feel that fear of loss feeling and I start to stress over it.  That stress <br>
feeling can turn something that should have had me feeling only slightly bothered <br>
into a full-blown, long-lasting depression. <br>
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Like I've been saying, though, it's all under your control.  It all roots back to the <br>
perspective you take on things. If you look at things in a way where you believe you <br>
could lose something and you're afraid of losing it, you will always experience a fear <br>
of loss. As a result, you will inevitably end up creating a self-fulfilling prophecy (that <br>
is, your negative emotions and mindset will have you behave, or make decisions, in <br>
such a way that brings about exactly what you don't want)... <br>
 <br>
One of the biggest differences between people who are successful in an area of life <br>
and those who aren't is that the unsuccessful people take on a perspective that <br>
causes them to stress over that area of life, whereas the successful people don't take <br>
on a perspective that stresses them out. <br>
 <br>
I know you can't turn off the care with the flip of a switch, especially since you've <br>
been programmed to treat relationships a certain way for your entire life, but it's <br>
essential that you have an awareness of what is causing the problems.  From there <br>
you will hopefully find a way to re-train yourself and get to a place where you can <br>
enjoy your relationships without stressing over them. </p>
Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02996151583251537081noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5476951024375800496.post-8121612930461287102014-10-14T10:11:00.002-07:002014-10-14T10:11:50.022-07:00How to Get Over a Guy Who Doesn't Care About You<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
Have a crush on someone? Like someone whom you thought liked you back
when in fact he couldn't care less? Or it could be he doesn't know your
existence at all? Whatever it is, many people suffer from such
situations, leaving them sad, hurt, and depressed. The truth is, the
world isn't going to end just because he doesn't feel the same way you
do; in fact, it's time to discover your own inner strength and
resilience.<br />
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<span style="font-size: large;"><b>1</b></span><b class="whb"><span style="font-size: large;"> </span> Be strong and think:</b> So what if he doesn't like me? He is not the only guy in the world. Remember this, he is not one <b>in</b> a million, but rather just one <b>out</b> of a million. Yes, he is not that significant if you put this matter in that perspective.</div>
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<li>Why should I waste my time on someone who doesn't care and isn't willing to spend his time on me?</li>
<li>Why should I waste my emotions on someone who doesn't reciprocate?</li>
<li>Why should I waste my tears on someone who will never know, never care, and wouldn't care?</li>
<li>Why should I subject my heart to such pain over someone who doesn't give two hoots about me?</li>
<li>Why should I put myself through the arduous torture of missing him,
thinking about him, caring about him, and loving him when I gain nothing
in return?</li>
<li>Why should I get depressed over a man who isn't "the one" and who can ruin my chances of meeting my soul mate?</li>
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where you think he might have liked you, and then you realized he wasn't
interested, know that it's OK.</b> It happens to everyone. Just move on
and please don't dwell on any past 'experiences' that made you think
that he liked you. Do not give yourself the opportunity to think that
you might still have a chance. If there really was something between the
two of you, don't you think something would have already happened? Why
wait till the time when you finally realized that it isn't mutual? </div>
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Do not lie in bed, cuddling underneath your blankets and listen to
depressing songs. Nope, that isn't going to help-- it will only make you
feel worse because all you're going to think about is him, him, and
still him! Go for a jog, walk your dogs, clean your room, cook
something, bake, do anything! </div>
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Think of that side of him that isn't favourable. Yes, you might say
that you love him so much that you love his negative sides, too. Girl,
that isn't going to help. What you are trying to do now is to forget
about him and to diminish all those romantic feelings you have for him.
(Soon to be- <i>had</i>, remember?</div>
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want to go out with a guy who makes me cry more than smile? Find a guy
who will make you smile, dry your tears, and who is always willing to
spend his time. A guy who will shower you with love, concern, and
affections, not this guy who has indirectly made you give him all and
doesn't appreciate it. He is so not worth it.</div>
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<li>Think about the fact that you will find that one special guy later
on in life. Sometimes, women/girls think that because their temporary
crush doesn't want them, they will be forever alone. Move on!</li>
<li>Be gracious and don't take rejection personally. Know that it wasn't
meant to be for a good reason, but that you learnt and grew from the
experience; it will help you learn what is right for you.</li>
<li>Keep yourself busy, for example in a hobby or simple task.</li>
<li>Spend more time with your friends or family. The more you spend with
them the easier it is to fill all the sadness in your heart and replace
it with happiness.</li>
<li>Make more friends! Don't talk too much to him if possible!</li>
<li>Don't block him on Facebook or Twitter. He will be able to see how
happy you are and that you are strong enough to get through the pain he
caused you.</li>
<li>If you start to pretend that you don't care and that
it doesn't bother you, eventually you really won't care and it really
won't bother you. Live your life, invest in yourself.</li>
<li>Think about what you deserve and never settle for less than what you deserve.</li>
<li>Everyone has faults, so find his and dwell on them. It will make you realize that he's not as good as you thought he was.</li>
<li>Every time you see him focus on something you don't like about him.</li>
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02996151583251537081noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5476951024375800496.post-42334811146528090262013-10-19T01:34:00.001-07:002013-10-19T01:36:31.783-07:00Flirting Tips - Tips to flirt effectively<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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<br />
Just like painting or cooking, flirting too is an art. Some are lucky
enough to be natural flirts. It just comes so easily to them. But take
heart! Flirting is not a talent which you either have or you don’t. It
is a skill that can be acquired and honed. The more you practice, the
better you get at it.<br />
We sometimes hear of a guy being referred to as an ‘incorrigible
flirt’, but it is rarely a derogatory tag. In fact women often love to
be flirted with; it makes them feel special. And almost all women adore a
skilled flirt, unless of course he happens to be your boyfriend and
he’s always flirting with other women!<br />
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Flirting is not a male domain. In fact most men love women who make the first move. You can <span class="adtext" id="adtext_1">earn extra</span> points by doing it with grace and flair.<br />
Many of us feel we just can’t flirt and would probably end up looking
foolish. And we secretly envy those who seem to attract members of the <span class="adtext" id="adtext_3">opposite sex</span> like bees to honey. Sometimes we justify it by saying, “Oh, he’s good looking”, or “She’s got a <span class="adtext" id="adtext_2">great body</span>”, and hence successful at the flirting game. You’re wrong!<br />
You don’t have to be attractive or sexy to charm the socks off the
man. Sure, it can help; but with or without them, you can still come out
tops in the popularity charts.<br />
For those who think they could never do it, here are a few tips to be a successful flirt:<br />
<b>1. Show It Off </b><br />
If you’ve got it, flaunt it. We’re not contradicting what we just
said, but if you’ve got the assets, capitalize on them. We’re not
talking obvious beauty here, but if you’ve got good legs, display them.
Or sensuous lips, accentuate them with the latest shade from Maybelline.
If you’ve been bulking up those biceps in the gym, don’t hide them.
Whatever it may be, make the most of your best feature!<br />
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secret desires and inner feelings. It's also available as an instant
download ebook.<br />
<b>2. Sex Appeal</b><br />
You may not have any single spectacular feature, but you may have
something intangible…if anyone has ever told you that you have loads of
sex appeal, let it show! It could be your razor sharp intelligence or
sparkling wit. If you know it gets them weak in the knees, exploit it to
the maximum.<br />
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<b>3. Self-confidence </b><br />
You have to exude this quality if you want to be successful at the
flirting game. Flirting requires gumption and you need to be really bold
in your approach. <br />
<b>4. Dress to Impress</b><br />
As you approach her, she assesses you and already forms a snap judgment based on what she sees. It's not said for nothing that ‘<a href="http://www.futurescopes.com/advice/52/how-make-good-impression-first-date">First impressions</a>
are the last impressions’, so before you even open your mouth let, your
appearance speak a thousand words. If women have told you before that
you have a good butt, wear that cool pair of Levi’s that highlights it,
along with your favorite shirt.<br />
<b>5. Smell Good </b><br />
Our body secretes pheromones that are subtle indicators and draw
members of the opposite sex to us. But, you could help your cause a bit
by generously using an extra dash of that David off or Burberrys. Women
go weak at the knees when men emanate that indefinable aroma which is
all musk and male.<br />
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<b>6. Body Language </b><br />
Our body can send some very powerful signals and it is an invaluable
tool in the art of flirting. The eyes, for instance, can speak volumes
without a word ever crossing our lips. You can adopt the subtle approach
and sidle glances his way or be bold and grab her attention with a
direct look. Be sure not to stare offensively though, she may run, but
not in the direction you’re hoping! You can even be coy and use the
age-old fluttering of your eyelashes and hope he’s a sucker for it. The
hands too can be used to advantage. You can run your fingers
suggestively down the spine of the book you happen to be carrying as if
you’d rather be running them down her spine! Or if you’ve got luscious
lips, you could keep running your tongue over them to moisten them or
pout in his direction. The possibilities are endless!<br />
<b>7. Conversation Opener </b><br />
There is no point setting the stage, perfecting your costume and
make-up and then forgetting your lines. When you’re flirting, put on the
performance of your life. Know what you’re going to say and be
convincing. Try for something original instead of the run-of-the-mill
pick-up lines. There are, of course, women who enjoy the occasional
corny line, but every woman would like to hear something new.<br />
<b>8. Language </b><br />
Use good language and if you have a way with words, use it to your
advantage. If you’re well-read, bring it up at relevant points in the
conversation. Remember though, while you’re trying to impress, this is
not about you, always steer the topic back to your partner.<br />
<b>9. Compliment </b><br />
Observe and pay compliments. If you really want to make an impression
you’ll avoid the more obvious, like how she has great hair or he’s got
fantastic height. Try and probe and discover things not apparent on the
surface and you’ll have your victim’s attention.<br />
Don’t resort to idle flattery; unless you do it with remarkable aplomb or your target is stupid or both, you won’t succeed.<br />
<b>10. Humor </b><br />
If you ask most men/women for the top five qualities they look for, a
sense of humor almost invariably figures in the first three. Its no
wonder they say that laughter is the best medicine. If he’s faking a
polite laugh, then you know enough not to pursue it, you’re not on the
same wavelength or he simply doesn’t find you funny. But if he finds you
rib-ticklingly funny, you’ve ensured a date by the end of the evening.<br />
<b>11. Make Him/Her Feel Special </b><br />
The one you’re trying to flirt with may be in a roomful of people or
surrounded by a group of friends but try holding eye contact and making
him/her feel like they are the center of your universe. Be interested in
everything he/she is saying and absorb every feature as if you are
trying to etch it in your memory. Believe me, they will get the message
that you’re more than interested!</div>
Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02996151583251537081noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5476951024375800496.post-40777352273480343052013-10-18T12:09:00.001-07:002013-10-18T12:09:37.678-07:00Why you shouldn't reveal everything about yourself to your lover<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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When you’re getting to know each other and are in the initial stages of a budding relationship, it's best not to reveal everything about yourself to your lover. If you insist on telling him everything, even if your life is an open book, he might be bored because he already knows more than he probably needs to. It is always good for a relationship to retain a hint of mystery and to keep him guessing a bit. It is more fun to let him discover things for himself and gradually uncover your hidden depths, layer by layer.</div>
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If you have a few skeletons in your closet, and you choose to reveal them all in the beginning of the relationship when you’re still treading on uncertain ground, you run the risk of your partner backing off if he’s not comfortable with what you have disclosed. Once you are more settled into the relationship and if the situation presents itself, tell him only as much as you think he should know.</div>
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Trust and honesty is important for a relationship, so if he asks you certain pointed questions, don’t try and hide stuff. But you don’t have to tell him all the gory details, an abbreviated version will do. Being comfortable enough with your lover, to tell him the truth, also involves trusting him enough with your feelings and that he will not abuse this trust, or use whatever you tell him to get back at you someday, or throw it in your face.</div>
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If your lover is the jealous type or overly possessive, be wary of what you tell him about past relationships. If you think he can’t handle the information in a mature manner, tell him selectively whatever you think he can deal with. And if he doesn’t ask, don’t tell him at all.</div>
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Also, if you do discuss your past history with your lover, you don’t need to go into details about each and every past relationship you’ve ever had. He also doesn’t need to know statistics – how many boyfriends you’ve had, how many people you’ve slept with, how many live-in relationships you’ve had – unless you’re truly comfortable and want to discuss it. And unless it becomes a bone of contention, some things are best left in the past.</div>
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And guys, you also don’t have to reveal to your lover how intimate you were with your last girlfriend. Or what you used to fight about. If she’s pushing you to talk about it, keep it brief or be evasive and tell her you can’t remember every detail or you don’t like to dwell on what’s over and done with. Don’t ever say that you’re not ready to talk about it, as your partner will take it as a sign that you still have feelings for your old girlfriend and don’t trust her enough to talk about it.</div>
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The reason why you shouldn’t get into ‘telling all’ is by pleading to the 5th amendment – Anything you say can and will be used against you – at a future date. If you told her, for instance, that your last girlfriend hated how messy you were, the next time you leave your socks lying around, you’ll have it thrown back in your face with a "No wonder she dumped you".</div>
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Or if you told him that your friends often call you a control freak, the next occasion you give him a list of things to be done around the house, he’ll use it against you, telling you that its no surprise that you’ve got a reputation like that.</div>
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Or if you happen to have once made the mistake of telling him that your boyfriend thought you were a tad obstinate and pigheaded, the next time you’re having an argument, he’s going to rub it in by saying, "See, this is why you’re not in a relationship, because you refuse to see another point of view apart from your own."</div>
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And don’t ever make the colossal mistake of telling your lover that your ex and you had a great sex life. He/she will always feel inadequate and that they pale in comparison, and no matter what you say afterwards, they will always feel that they never measure up.</div>
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